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OJIEHANOR COLLINS ODIGIE

Copyr i ght©2020COLLI NSODI GI EOJI EHANOR Al lr i ght sr eser ved.Nopar toft hi spubl i cat i onmayber epr oduced, di st r i but ed, or t r ansmi t t edi nanyf or m orbyanymeans,i ncl udi ngphot ocopyi ng,r ecor di ng,or ot herel ect r oni cormechani calmet hods,wi t houtt hepr i orwr i t t enper mi ssi onof t hepubl i sher ,excepti nt hecaseofbr i efquot at i onsembodi edi nr evi ewsand cer t ai not hernoncommer ci alusesper mi t t edbycopyr i ghtl aw.

LEGALDI SCLAI MER Thi sbookandt hecont entpr ovi dedt her ei nar esi mpl yf oreducat i onalpur poses, t oser veasagui def orever yonewhost r i vet obesuccef ulandpr oduct i vei nl i f e, busi nessandcar eer .

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ACKNOWLEDGEMENT Iappr eci at eAl mi ght yGodf orHi sgr ace,mer cyandwi sdom t oputt hi sbook t oget her . I ' m gr at ef ult omypar ent s,Bar r i st erPat r i ckOj i ehanorOl enl oaandMr sEst her Oj i ehanorf ort hei rencour agementandadvi ce. Tot hewonder f ul peopl ewhohavei mpact edmei nonewayort heot her ; Dr .C. SAdeJohnson, Mr sChi nyer eAr eghan, Edi r i nEdewor , Omobabi nr i nAdeol a Osi deko, Vi ct or i aChi omaNwanna, Past orSeunDani el , OnyenachorVi ct or yEj i r o, Gi f tOmodi al e,At i nukeAshaol u,MrCl et usK.Ovr y,Adedol apoEbadan,Paul Oyewusi , I r eneNwaj ei , Past orKi ngsl eyI moi si l i . Andt oever yonewhosenameswer enotment i onedbuthavecont r i but edt ot he successoft hi sbookandmyper sonall i f e, Godbl essyoual l .

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DEDI CATI ON Toever yonewhowantt oandbel i evesi nbei ngdel i ber at eandi nt ent i onalabout success.

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WHOTHI SBOOKI SFOR? Thi sbooki sf ori ndi vi dual swhoar er eadyt ol ear n,scal eupandposi t i onf or success.

ABOUTTHEBOOK THEDREAM I S NOW i sabookonvi si on,goal s,pur poseandst r at egi esf or pr epar i ngyour sel ff orr esul t si nl i f easayoungi ndi vi dual .Manyyoungpeopl e ar est r anded, manygr aduat ef r om t heUni ver si t yandcan' tf i ndanyt hi ngwor t hi t becauset heyf ai lt osetgoal sandpl ant her i ghtwayandont her i ghtt hi ng. Thi sbookwi l lopenyoureyest ot her eal i t yofwhatyouar esupposedt oknow anddot osetupf orsuccessi nl i f e.Thi sbookgi vesabl uepr i ntofhowyoucan posi t i onyour sel ff or100%pr oduct i vi t y.I tgi vesst epbyst eppr ocessofhowI ' ve beenabl et oachi eve100%pr oduct i vi t y.Thebookwi l lexposeyout o;havi ngt he r i ghtmi ndsetand at t i t ude f orsuccess,set t i ng goal s,whatt o know when choosi ng your car eer ,what t o avoi d on your success j our ney as an under gr aduat e,whatempl oyer swant ,becomi ngyourownboss,devel opi ngan ent r epr eneur shi p mi ndset , per sonal i t y devel opment and under st andi ng i nt el l i gence.I fyoumustbesuccessf ul ,youmustbedel i ber at eandi nt ent i onal abouti t .

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I NTRODUCTI ON " Educat i onenabl est hehumanst oachi evet hei rf ul l estment alandphysi cal pot ent i ali nbot hper sonalandsoci all i f e"_ Abhi j i tNaskar . Gr aduat i onpl aysaver ycr i t i calr ol ei nshapi ngone’ spr of essi onalcar eer .Af t er compl et i ng gr aduat i on,you ar e supposed t o have super i orknowl edge i na par t i cul arst r eam ofeducat i on.Gr aduat i onpr ovi desabaset hatyoucanuset o ut i l i zeyourdr eams.Whi l emanyst udent sf i ndt her i ghtof t enwayt of ul f i l lt hei r dr eams, amaj or i t yoft hem f i ndi tdi f f i cul tt ochooset her i ghtcar eeropt i onaf t er gr aduat i on. You wi l lal ways hearunder gr aduat es and gr aduat es compl ai ni ng bi t t er l y, di sappoi nt edatt hel evelofunempl oymenti nt hecount r y.Al ar gerper cent ageof st udent soncampusnowadaysdonotSETGOALS.Ever yonecl ai mst ohave DREAMS,butnotal lhavewor kabl edr eamswhoseFUNCTI ONALI TY canbe measur ed.Devel opi ng your sel f ,havi ng a posi t i ve gr owt h and a sense of st r at egi cpl anni ngt hatwi l lt r ansf or m yourl i f e, i sani mpor t antaspectofl i f e. I fwemustbui l dagoodl i f eandcar eerf ort hef ut ur eandr educet henumberof unempl oyedyoungpeopl ei nNi ger i a,st udent soncampusmustcont i nuet o gr ow anddevel opani nf l uent i almi ndsetwi t ht hei nt ent i ont oaddval uet ot hei r l i vesandt hatofot her s. Somanygr aduat esoft er t i ar yi nst i t ut i ons,especi al l yPubl i cUni ver si t i es,f i ndsi t di f f i cul tt ogetagoodl i f eaf t erschool ,becauset heyf ai lt opl anwhent hey shoul d have.Now t hatt her e ar e no mor e ways t o col l ectmoney f r om par ent s/ guar di ans wi t h some f r audul entact i vi t i es whi ch t hey cl ai m t o be academi cact i vi t i es, t heyar el ef tst r andedont hest r eetwi t hnovi si onandacl ear pi ct ur eoft hei rl i f e.

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Theki ndofor i ent at i onpr ogr amsor gani zedf orf r eshst udent si nmostPubl i c Uni ver si t i esandPol yt echni csi nNi ger i aar ej ustf orf unandsoci alpl easur e.I f youdoadeepst udyont hegener alpopul at i onofst udent si nPubl i cUni ver si t i es and Pol yt echni cs,you woul d di scovert hat ,onl y about40% have t he r i ght mi ndsetandor i ent at i onaboutt heout si dewor l dasast udentoncampus. Aski dswewoul dal wayssay" Iwantt ogot oschool ,gr ow up,getagoodj ob, bui l dabi ghouseandbuyabi gcar . "Buthowmanyofusar epr epar edt ot akeup t hechal l engeandr esponsi bi l i t yofbecomi ngsuccessf ul .Wemustbepr epar ed f ort heki ndofl i f ewewantf orour sel ves.Thepr epar at i ondoesnotbegi nwhen youar eal r eadyagr aduat e;i tbegi nsf r om t hecampusasanunder gr aduat e st udent . I fyougett hatdesi r edj ob, doyouhavet heabi l i t yt omanaget hej ob? Empl oyer sar enotl ooki ngf orpeopl et hatwi l lwor kf ort hem andbecomel i abi l i t y t ot hem.Asanunder gr aduat eyoumustber eadyandwi l l i ngt odevel opyour sel f t obet t erposi t i onyour sel fi nt hesoci et y.Youdon' tneedt obeoutofschool bef or eyoust ar tpl anni nghowyourl i f ewi l lbel i ke.School i ng( st udent )i snotan occupat i on. Educat i oni snotanaut omat i ct i cketf orsuccess.Goi ngt oschooli snotsameas bei ngeducat ed.Youcanbeagr aduat eandst i l ll ackt heknowl edget oposi t i on your sel fandl ever ageonoppor t uni t i est oachi evemaxi mum pr oduct i vi t y. Beabi gt hi nkerf r om t hi smomentonwar ds.Donotl i mi tyourchancesofbei ng successf ulwi t ht hemi ndsetof" I ' m ast udent " .

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CONTENTS Acknowl edgement Dedi cat i on Whot hi sbooki sf or I nt r oduct i on Geti tRi ght Ther eal i t yofwhoyouar e Havet her i ghtat t i t ude Choosi ngyourcar eer Ri ghtyetwr ong TheActofSet t i ngGoal s WhatEmpl oyer sWant Becomi ngyourownBoss Under st andi ngi nt el l i gence Theconceptofper sonaldevel opment Bemot i vat ed REFERENCE

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GETI TRI GHT “ SUCCESSi snotapr oductofEDUCATI ON, butar esul tofcar ef ulPLANNI NGand EXECUTI ON” Iwasatabusi nessCent r eoncampust omakesomephot ocopi esandt woguys andal adywer edi scussi ngaboutsecur i ngaj obi nar eput abl eor gani zat i oneven asanunder gr aduat e.I nt er est i ng,Isai dt omysel f ,Ist yl i shl ymovedcl osert o t hem soIcoul dhearandbenef i tf r om whatt heywer edi scussi ng. Iwasamazedwi t ht heki ndofwor dst hatcameoutf r om t hei rmout hs.Ver y f unnyhowf i nalyearst udent sofauni ver si t yi nt hi s21stcent ur ywi l lset t l ewi t h somef unnymi ndsetandambi t i on. The l ady was maki ng a r epl yt o one oft he guys who sai d even as an under gr aduat eyoucansecur eaj obi nar eput abl eor gani zat i on, t hatsomeofhi s f r i endshavedonet hat .TheLadysai d" mi nei sj ustt of i ni shschoolcar r ymysel f andgogetahusbandt hatwi l lt akecar eofme, educat i oni nNi ger i awi l lnoteven gi veyouanyt hi ngmeani ngf ul ,youwi l lgr aduat enow andnoj ob"t heot herguy sai d"Lastl astsomebodywi l lgr aduat eandl eavet hi sschool ,ever yt hi ngi sj ust st r ess, f r om my100Levelt o400Levelnow, howschoolt akehel pme, makeenor bil i kesayper sonnorgoschool , i fyouevengr aduat ef r om uni ver si t ynow, wher e i st hej ob, abegi i i . " Manyst udent soncampust odaygai nedadmi ssi onandatf i r styear ,t heywer e f ul lofener gyandent husi asm t ol ear nandmakegr eati mpact ,butaf t ersome t i meyouof t enhearst at ementl i ke“ Letmej ustgr aduat eandl eavet hi sschool , t hi ssyst em i snonsense, i ti snotever yonet hatwi l luset hei rcer t i f i cat et owor k" A numberofst udent soncampusengagei nsomef or m ofi ndi sci pl i neand l awl essact ,nonchal antaboutl ear ni ngandf ai lt odevel opt hemsel vesf ora bet t ert omor r owasar esul tofwr ongor i ent at i on, mi ndsetandmor al t r ai ni ng. 9

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Soci et alval uesar ei mpor t antf ort hesur vi valofanysoci et y.I tmustbegi nf r om t hei ndi vi dual , st udent soncampusmusthavet her i ghtat t i t udeandappr oacht o i dent i f yandmakegooduseofoppor t uni t i eswhi l eoncampus. I ti ssaddenhowsomest udent scomei nt ot hecampuswi t hdi sabl edor i ent at i on f r om home.You hearst udent sdi shi ng outl amer easonswhyt heyar eon campusandsomedon' tevenknowwhyandwhatcampusi sabout . Asagr aduat e, whatper sonalval uesdoyouhavet hati shel pi ngyoushapeyour f ocus?Anyt hi ngi snot hi ng, youcannotsayanyj obIwi l ldo, no, andyoucannot bepr oduct i vei nwhatyouar enotgoodat .How successf ulyouar ef r om t he out si dei saf unct i onoft heposi t i veandconsci ousdeci si onanddesi r ei nsi de. Atsomepoi nt ,Iwasj ustar egul arst udenti naUni ver si t ywhoi snotdel i ber at e andconsci ousabouthi scar eerandl i f easani ndi vi dualbecauseIbel i evedI ' m j ustast udent ,sobyt het i meIgr aduat ef r om t heUni ver si t y,Iwi l lknowwhatt o do.If el tschool i ngi ssomet hi ngt hatwi l laut omat i cal l yopenmyeyesandmi nd t ot heper sonIwantt obe. Asar esul toft hi smi ndset , Imi ssedal otofoppor t uni t i esi nmyf i r standsecond yeari nt heUni ver si t y, schol ar shi poppor t uni t i est hatwoul dhavet r ansf or medmy l i f e.Idi dn' tevencountt hem asanyt hi ngnotunt i lsomeoneIknowver ywel lwho madegooduseofsomeoft hoseoppor t uni t i es,i nonewayort heot herwas t aken outoft he count r yf orf ur t herhi s st udi es Abr oad wi t h aut omat i c empl oyment .Pr esent l yt hatmyf r i endi sl i vi ngwel landf i newi t houtanyf or m of dependencyonanyone.Il ear ntmyl essonf r om t hedayhemessagedmeon soci almedi aandIsawt hathewasi nI ndi a.Ashumansi fwemusthaveabr i ght f ut ur ewemustcheckandr ear r anget hei nt entt osucceed.Youbei ngal i t er at e doesnotchanget hef actt hatever yt hi nggoodcomesf r om pr operpl anni ngand execut i on. 10

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THEREALI TYOFWHOYOU ARE WHO AM I ?I saquest i onyoushoul dal waysaskyour sel f .Youmusthavea sense ofPERSONAL VALUE.Accor di ng t o Zi g Zi gl ar“ I t ’ si mpossi bl et o consi st ent l ybehavei namanneri nconsi st entwi t hhow weseeour sel ves.We candover yf ewt hi ngsi naposi t i vewayi fwef eel negat i veaboutour sel ves. ” Nat hani elBr anden,apsychot her api standexper tont hesubj ectofsel f est eem, saysnot hi ng i smor ei mpor t anti n peopl e’ spsychol ogi caldevel opmentand mot i vat i ont hant heval uej udgment st heymakeaboutt hemsel ves.Ever yaspect oft hei rl i vesi si mpact edbyt hewayt heyseet hemsel ves. Asayoungmanorwomanwhowant st osucceedyoumustbeposi t i veabout your sel f .Wor dsar epower f ulandourbel i efsyst emshaveawayofshapi ngour act i onsast owhatweseeasr el evantornecessar y. Iwasl i vi ngmyl i f ewi t houtpl ansf ort hef ut ur ebecauseIdi dnotseer easons whyIshoul ddi st ur bmysel foveranyt hi ng.Idi dnothaveanygoalorwhat soever t hatI ' m st r i vi ngt oat t ai n.SoIwasbasi cal l ysl eepi ngandwaki ngup,moveal l ar oundpl aywi t hf r i endsandf ami l yandgobackt osl eep. Somanyofusyoungi ndi vi dual sar el i ket hi s, andwedon' tknowt hatt hi shavea wayofr obbi ngusofourf ut ur e.Ever ypr ocessandact i onsyouf ai lt ot akeat ever ygi venpoi nthaveawayofr educi ngf r om t heper sonyouwi l lbei nf ut ur e. Why do young peopl e pr ocr ast i nat e? Because we don' thave a posi t i ve convi ct i ont hatwhatwear esupposedt odoatt hatpoi nti swor t hi t .Andt hi s 11

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haveanef f ectonyoui nf ut ur e,j ustl i keonewhoi sbui l di ngahouse,you cont r act edt hej obt osomeonet obui l dahousef oryouandyouonl yshowed t hem t hel andt obui l dt hehouseandaskedt hem t ost ar tbui l di ng,wi t houtt he knowl edgeofwhatki ndofhouseyouwantandyoudi dnotpay,your et ur ned af t erawhi l eandexpectt hatt hehousemusthavebeencompl et ed. Youcannothavet hehousewhenyoudonotevenknowwhatki ndofhouseyou want ,youwon' tevenknow i ft hehousei sokornot ,t hehousewi l lr emai nl i ke t hatbecauseyouhavef ai l edt oaddabl ockt ot hebui l di ng,notunt i lyoudeci de t ot akeconsci ousand r el evantact i onst owar dscompl et i ng t hathouse,t he housewi l lnevergett ot hel evelofr oof i ngi t . Youneedt ocar ef ul l yhar nessyourpot ent i al sandgetr i dofbadhabi t st hat mi l i t at esSel f devel opmentandSel f f ul f i l l ment .Manyyoungpeopl egot oschool anddonotst udy,somedonotat t endcl asses,somef ol l ow t hel eadoff r i ends who don' thavepl ansf ort hemsel ves,somespend t hei rt i meon t r i vi al i t i es, at t endi ngdi f f er entpar t i es, spendmuchonsel f cl ai medf ashi oni st a, somespend t hei rpr eci oust i meonsexualact i vi t i esandhavet hei rgl or yanddest i nysol dout andbecomeempt yvessel s.Att heendt heyj ustmaneuvert hei rwayst ohave goodgr adesandt heyt hi nki tendst her e. Youar east udentdoesnotst opyouf r om pr epar i ngyour sel ff ort omor r ow' st ask. I nf actwhati st hepur poseoff or maleducat i oni fyoucannotl ever ageoni tt o maxi mi zeyourout putl evel .School i ngi snotanoccupat i on, i t ' sj ustapr ocessof educat i ont ohel pyoubr i ngoutal lt hoser awmat er i al sdeposi t edi nsi deyou.You musthaveaposi t i veandr i ghtat t i t udeast owhyyouar eoncampus.Youshoul d al waysf ocusonsol ut i ons.Youmustunder st andt hateducat i oni sapr ocessof l ear ni ng,t hat ' swhyi ti snotonl yoncampusyoucanl ear nandbeeducat ed. Ther ei st heneedf oryout oseet heoppor t uni t yf ordevel opmentofabet t er f ut ur ewhi l eon campus." St udent sneed t o comeoutofbei ng peopl ewi t h

DREAMSt obei ngpeopl ewi t haGLOBALVI SI ON. "

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HAVETHERI GHTATTI TUDE Good academi c qual i f i cat i ons wi t houta good f oundat i on ofsel f di sci pl i ne, st r at egi cpl anni ngandadequat epr epar edness,wi l lmaket hei ndi vi dualusel ess t ohi m/ her sel f , uni ver si t y, f ami l yandsoci et y. At t i t udegoeswi t hasenseofpur pose.Whenyouhavet her i ghtat t i t udet owar ds somet hi ng, youcr eat er oom f orgr eat erachi evement sandaf ul f i l l edpur pose. Bef or eIgott owher eIam now,Iwasdel i ber at eandconsci ousaboutbecomi ng successf ul .Ir eal i zedt hatever yt hi ngi nl i f er equi r esat t ent i ont osucceedand f ai l sbydef aul t .Now whatdoyouwantt osee1yearf r om now?How about3 year sf r om now?5year s?Ibegant osetgoal s,Ist ar t edt hi nki ngaheadand becamepr oact i ve, af t erwhi chIcr eat edanact i onpl an.Nowt hei nt er est i ngt hi ng i st hat ,eveni ft hi ngsdon’ tgoaccor di ngt opl an,t hat ’ sokayasyoucanr evi ew, adj ustyourpl ans, andt henst eeryourl i f et owar dyourvi si on. At t i t udei sakeyf act oryouneedt oconsi deri fyouwantt ohaveagoodl i f e.The pr i mar yessenceofexi st encei st oaddval ue.Tof ul f i l lyourpur posei nl i f eand add val uet o yourl i f eand soci et y,you shoul d havet her i ghtat t i t udeand appr oach.At t i t uder ef er st ot hemanner ,di sposi t i on,f eel i ng,posi t i on,et c. ,wi t h r egar dt oaper sonort hi ng;t endencyoror i ent at i on, especi al l yoft hemi nd.I ti sa set t l edwayoft hi nki ngorf eel i ngaboutsomet hi ng. Anat t i t udecanbeaposi t i veornegat i veeval uat i onofpeopl e,obj ect s,event s, act i vi t i es, andi deas.I tcoul dbej ustaboutanyt hi ngi nourenvi r onment . Eagl y and Chai ken,( psychol ogi st s) f or exampl e,def i ne at t i t ude as " a psychol ogi calt endencyt hati sexpr essedbyeval uat i ngapar t i cul arent i t ywi t h somedegr eeoff avorordi sf avor . "

" Tr ynott obecomeaper sonofsuccess,butr at hert r yt obecomeaper sonof val ue"_ Myl esMunr oe.

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Ourappr oacht ot hewayofl i f ei st hedi st i ngui shi ngf eat ur esamonghumans. Ourappr oachi sbasedonourat t i t ude.WHATI SYOURATTI TUDE?  PURPOSEANDPASSI ON: Aper sont hatseekssuccesscannotexi stwi t houtasenseofpur pose.Pur pose i ssai dt obet heor i gi nali nt entf ort hecr eat i onofapar t i cul art hi ng.I ti st he r easonbehi ndt heexi st enceofsomet hi ng.Passi oni sadeepdesi r et odo,i t f or est er scommi t ment .Passi onser vesasadr i vi ngf or ceofmot i vat i ont hat cr eat esf ocusonpur pose.Wi t houtpassi on,onel ackst heener gy;onecannot f ul f i l lpur posei ft hepassi ont oachi evei snott her e.Gr eat nessi snotachi eved unt i lonedoesgr eatt hi ngs;gr eat nessi sdoi ngsmal lt hi ngsi nagr eatway.A manofpur posedonotwai tt i l lt hi ngshappen,hemakest hi ngshappen.Aman ofpur posei san i mpactmaker .Bei ng on campusi sj ustt hebegi nni ng of what everyouwantt omakeyour sel f .Soyoumustunder st andt hepur poseof bei ngi nschool anddevel oppassi onf orsuccess.  PRI ORI TI ES: Whatwedo det er mi newho wear eand whatwebecome.Anyt hi ng wedo consumesourt i me,ef f or t s,ener gy,abi l i t yort al ent sandl i f e.Whatdowegi ve at t ent i ont o?Whati st hatweputi nef f or t s?I ti si mpor t antt odi st i ngui shbet ween whati si mpor t antf orl i f eandf ul f i l l mentofpur pose.Whati si mpor t antandwhat i snecessar yf orpr oduct i vi t y,whati sgoodandwhati sbad.I ti snotever yt hi ng t hatcomesyourwayt hati sbenef i ci al .I dent i f yyourpr i or i t i esandst i ckt oi t . Campusl i f ei sadel i cat eone,youwi l lhavemanydi st r act i onsbutput t i ngyour mi ndatt heul t i mat egoalwi l lshapeyourf ocus.Youmustal waysr emembert hat t her ei sl i f eout si det hecampus.  DI SCI PLI NE: Sel f di sci pl i nei sonekeyat t i t udet of ul f i l l i ngpur pose.Sel f di sci pl i necr eat essel f cont r olandr egul at esone' sf ocusandwayofl i f e.Di sci pl i nei sast andar dand 14

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mot i vat i onwi t ht hedesi r et hati sgr eat ert hant heal t er nat i ves.Di sci pl i nemakes commi t mentt ogoal .Di sci pl i neshapesourdeci si onsandmi ndt owar dsdest i ny. Manyst udent soncampusdot hi ngst hatwhenyouseet hem youputaquest i on mar k( ? )ont hei rsenseofr easoni ng.Li f egener al l yr equi r essel f di sci pl i net o conquer .Manyundi sci pl i nedact soncampushavedest r oyedt hef ut ur eofso manyyoungpeopl ei nt hesoci et y.Bui l di ngaf ut ur eout si decampus,youmust i ncul cat et hepr i nci pl eofsel f di sci pl i ne.  GOALSETTI NGANDPERSI STENCE:

Thet r oubl ewi t hnothavi ngagoali st hatyoucanspendyourl i f er unni ngupand downt hef i el dandneverscor e. ”–Bi l lCopel and Thepassi ont oest abl i shgoal sandbepr ogr essi vei nasi t uat i ont hatseems unf avour abl ei sanot herat t i t udet osucceed.Ever ybodyi sagoalset t er ,buthow manyst ayont hosegoal s.Wemakepl ansever yday,buthowmanyunder st and t osett her i ghtgoal sandst ayf ocused.Wedonotaccompl i shwhatwedesi r e notbecausewedonotsetgoal s.I ti sasar esul tofset t i nggoal sf ort hewr ong t hi ngs,sowesett hewr ongki ndsofgoal s.Youshoul dknow t hatpur posei s mor ei mpor t antt hanpl ans.Pl anscanonl ywor kwheni t ' si nl i newi t hyour pur pose,under st andt hewhybehi ndever ypr ocess.Youmustdef i neyourgoal , wr i t ei tdown,vi sual i zei t ,communi cat eyourgoal ,bel i evei nyourgoal sandbe commi t t edt oyourgoal s. I NNOVATI ON: Pr epar i ngf oramor ef ul f i l l i ngl i f e,youmustl ear nt obei nnovat i ve.Toachi eve success,youmustl ear nf r om exper i encesofyour sel fandot her s,butneverl i ve i nt hem.Youmustseepossi bi l i t i esi never ysi t uat i on;youshoul dal wayst hi nk ahead ofl i f e and bel i eve you can accompl i sh whatyou desi r e.You must under st andnevert or epeatsamet hi ngt wi cei ft heyar enotbenef i ci al ,you shoul dn' thol dt hemi ndsett hatsomet hi ngi si mpossi bl e.Thewor l di schangi ng ever yday, weal soshoul d.Whatyouhavedonei nt hepastshoul dnotdet er mi ne 15

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yourf ut ur e.You shoul d be abl et o combi ne pastexper i ences and pr esent chal l enges and cr eat e new per spect i ve oft he f ut ur e.Have passi on f or PERSONALDEVELOPMENT.  WI SDOM ANDCOURAGE: Onemustbeabl et oappl yknowl edgeef f ect i vel yandnotbecont r ol l edby f ear .Wemustbeabl et omanageuncer t ai nt y.Havet heabi l i t yt oseet hi ngs i naposi t i veway.Keepl ear ni ngandmakei tr i ghtatal lt i mes.I gnor ancei s notanexcuset of ai l ur e.Al wayst hi nkr i ghtandappl yt her i ghtact i oni n ever yways. I NTEGRI TYANDRESPECT: Tr ust wor t hi nessi sonet r uechar act eryoumustpossess.Consi st encyi nyour wor dsandact i onsat t r actpeopl et oyou.Letpeopl eknow youf ort r ust ,and r espectt heysayi sr eci pr ocal ,al waysst andont hegr oundofr espect .Your r espectt oot her si sr espectt oyour sel f .Peopl eshoul dknow yout obeal ways r el i abl e.Theper cept i onofpeopl eaboutyoucanbr eakormakeyou. Ihadaccesst osomet r ai ni ngf orf r eebecauseoft hi sat t i t udeofI nt egr i t yand r espect .Iat t endedat r ai ni ngonemot i onali nt el l i gencewor t h10, 000Nai r aat Cr yst alCl earPr of essi onalSer vi cesi nLagosbyOmobabi nr i nAdeol aOsi deko ( MI NTA) ,Iwassupposedt or egi st erandpayf ori tbutIcoul dnotaf f or di t ,but guesswhat ,Ievent ual l ydi dt hatt r ai ni ngandr ecei vedcer t i f i cat eandevenhad l unchwi t houtpayi nganyt hi ng,Ipai donl y2, 500nai r aj ustf ort hecer t i f i cat eand l unch. Howdi dt hi shappen?Nowsomeweeksback,Ir egi st er edf oranonl i net r ai ni ng atPCDAcademywhi chi sunderCr yst alCl earPr of essi onalSer vi cesandIdi d posi t i venet wor ki ngwi t hMI NTA,Iwasact i vei nt heonl i net r ai ni ng,Ial waysask herquest i onspr i vat el yandengagei nact i vi t i esgoi ngon.

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It ol dMI NTAIwasi nLagosf ort het r ai ni ng,Ihaver egi st er edbutIdon' thave enoughmoneyt opayf ori t ,af t erdi scussi ngwi t hher ,shesai dIcanat t endt he t r ai ni ngandpayaf t er ;event ual l yshemadet het r ai ni ngf r eef oral lPCDAcademy st udent s.Now l etmeshockyou.Icameal lt hewayf r om OndoSt at et oat t end t hatt r ai ni ngi nLagosSt at eevenwhenIhaven' tpai d.Iwentont hewebsi t eand r egi st er edf ori t .BecauseofhowIhaveposi t i onedmysel f ,shesawt hehonest y andr espectandzealt omakeachangei nmyl i f e,Iwasabl et oat t endt he t r ai ni ngf orf r ee. I nt egr i t yi sapr oductofhonest y,behonestandbet r ut hf ul ." Wheneveryout el l

t het r ut h, yousetast andar df ort r ust "  RESI LI ENCEANDCREATI VI TY: Youmustnevergi veup.Youmusthavet heabi l i t yt obouncebackwhenpr obl em ar i ses.Al waysseesol ut i onsandf i xpr obl ems.Seeanoppor t uni t yt omakea changei nanysi t uat i on.Gi vi ngupi snott her i ghtappr oacht osol vi ngpr obl ems. Pr obl em i snotsomet hi ngweshoul df earbutembr ace.I mbi bi ngt hi scul t ur eof r esi l i enceandcr eat i vi t ywi l lhel pyouoveral i f et i me.  TEAM WORK: Lear nt owor kwi t hot her s.Thi si soneski l lempl oyer sl ookoutf or .Vol unt eer i ng i sonewayyoucanl ear nt hi sski l l .Theat t i t udeoft eam wor kmani f est st he di f f er encebet weenambi t i onandpur sui tofdest i ny.Ambi t i oni swhatyoudof or yourownbenef i tonl y, butdest i nyi nvol vesbenef i t i ngot her s.Li f ei sst r uct ur edi n awayt hatpeopl eshoul dbenef i tf r om oneanot her .Lear nnott ober i gi dand don' tdespi seot her s.Ever ybodyhasdi f f er entabi l i t y;i fwebr i ngt hi st oget herwe canmakei tgr eat .Thi si sver yessent i ali nbusi nessandcar eerenvi r onment .You mustknowhowt owor kwi t hyourcol l eagues.Don' tbesomeonet hatpeopl ewi l l al waysr ef uset owor kwi t h.BeEMOTI ONALLYI NTELLI GENT.

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CHOOSI NGYOURCAREER Al otofpeopl et odayhavei ssuesi nbui l di ngasust ai nabl ecar eerbecauseoft hi s mi ndsetof“ t hi swasnott hecour seIwant edt ost udy,l etmej ustdoand gr aduat e" Backt ohavi ngt her i ghtat t i t udet hatwedi scussed, undert heat t i t udeofwi sdom andcour age,youneedt ounder st andt hatt her ewi l lal waysbeuncer t ai nt y,so youmustbeabl et oappl yknowl edgeef f ect i vel yandnotbecont r ol l edbyf ear . Youmustbeabl et omanageuncer t ai nt y,al waysseesol ut i onandsuccessi n ever ysi t uat i on. Bef or eIgotadmi t t edi nAdekunl eAj asi nUni ver si t yAkungbaAkoko,OndoSt at e, t ost udyMassCommuni cat i on,Ihadear l i err ef usedgoi ngf ort hecour seIwas of f er edi nUni ver si t yofBeni n, EdoSt at e.Fort hr eeyear sIwasf i ght i ngf orwhatI woul dsayaf ut i l ebat t l e.Iwasof f er edadmi ssi ont hr eet i mesbutIr ef usedt o t akei tupbecausei twasn' tmydesi r edcour se. Myl ovet ost udyLawwasast r ongone;Iwoul dseeever yot hercour seasnotup t ost andar d.Butt henagai nIappl i edf orLaw atAdekunl eAj asi nUni ver si t y, guesswhat , Iwasbi t t er l ydi sappoi nt edwhenIcheckedmyadmi ssi onst at usand Isaw MassCommuni cat i on.Ihadnochoi cebutt ot akei tupbecauseIcan' t i magi nemysel fspendi nganot heryearathome. Get t i ng t o campus Iwas happyand sad,atl eastIwas now a Uni ver si t y Under gr aduat e,butt hent hatwasnotwhatIwant edt ost udy.Myf i r styeari n schoolwasar oughdr af tsuccess, t hepassi onandent husi asm wasnott her e. Mysecondyeari nt heuni ver si t y,Iat t endedasemi naror gani zedbyt heAl umni associ at i ont i t l ed" THEBRANDCALLEDYOU. "Af t ert hesemi nar , Igothomeand dr ownmysel fi nsi demyt hought s.Ir eal i zedwemustal waysber eadyatal l t i mes, l i f ei sal laboutuncer t ai nt y.What everwedodoesnotaf f ectt hecour sewe st udi ed, r at heri taf f ect sourl i f e, f ut ur eandcar eer . 18

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Af t ert hatencount er ,Idevel opedl ovef orwhatIwasdoi ng,Ibegant osee changes i n di f f er entar eas ofmy academi cs.Today,am happy t o be a COMMUNI CATOR. As an under gr aduat e on campus, st udyi ng Mass Communi cat i ongavemeal otofoppor t uni t yt odevel opmysel f ,l ear nandal so meethi ghpr of i l eper sonal i t i es. Bei ngacampusj our nal i st ,Iachi evedbeaut i f ul andamazi ngt hi ngswhi chhel pedmet obecomesuccessf uli ncampuswhi ch or di nar ywoul dhavenotbeenpossi bl ei fIst udi edanot hercour se. Mostst udent smaket hemi st akeoff ol l owi ngt hel eadoff r i ends.Theychoosea par t i cul arcour seofst udybecauset heysawt hei rf r i endsdoi ngsame.Youmust under st andt hatwehaveouri ndi vi dualdi f f er ences, ourabi l i t i esar enott hesame, whatyourf r i endscancopewi t hi snotsameaswhatyoucancopewi t h. Dur i ngmysi xmont hsi nt er nshi patSpeedFM 96. 9Beni n,Ibui l tmyper sonal br andandwentext r ami l et odowhatot herI . Tst udent sdi dnotdo.Thi sgaveme anedgeandIl ever agedoni tt obui l di nf l uenceandevenaf t ermyI . T,Ist ar t ed wor ki ngvol unt ar i l yi nt heRadi ost at i on. Dur i ngt hatper i od,Igai nedexper i encesasaNewsRepor t er .Iconduct edvox pops,wr ot e news st or i es f r om pr ess r el eases,act ed as an Associ at e pr oducer / SubEdi t or ,Imader esear chesandf or mul at edi nt er vi ew quest i ons,I voi cedr adi oj i ngl es,Idi dscr i pt swr i t i ngandNewsi nser tpr oduct i on.Thi sgave mecr edi bi l i t yandasenseofpr of essi onal i sm.Idi dn' tl i mi tmysel fbecauseIwas an I . Tst udent ,butr at herIembr acedal loppor t uni t i est oadvancemyl i f eand car eer . Asar esul tofmycommi t mentandi nnovat i vei deasIwasabl et ocoverst or i es l i keThei ncept i onwor kshopont hepr oj ect" Empower i ngWomenasKeyLeader s i nPr omot i ngCommuni t yBasedCl i mat eChangeAdapt at i onandDi sast erRi sk Reduct i onI ni t i at i vei nNi gerDel t aRegi on"or gani zedbyCent r ef orPopul at i on 19

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and Envi r onment alDevel opment( CPED) ,Beni n Ci t y;The2018 f r eedom day Devi neSer vi ceoft heGod' sKi ngdom Soci et y( GKS)Beni nCi t ybr anch;The of f i ci alcommi ssi oni ngoft heEdoSt at ePubl i cHeal t hEmer gencyOper at i on Cent er ( PHEOC) , by Edo St at e Mi ni st r y of Heal t h; The Tr ader Moni empower mentpr ogr am or gani zedbyt heFeder alGover nmenti ncol l abor at i on wi t ht heBankOfI ndust r y,donei nBeni nCi t y;Theof f i ci alcommi ssi oni ngoft he St .Moni caHomeForTheEl der l yandBookLaunch, i nBeni nCi t yandTher al l yof t heJoi ntNat i onalAssoci at i onOfPer sonsWi t hDi sabi l i t i esEdoSt at eChapt er , t o f aci l i t at et hepassageoft heDi sabi l i t yLawBi l li nEdoSt at e.Iguessyoushoul d knowt heki ndofpeopl eandnet wor ki ngI ' vedoneal r eadyevenasast udent , j ust t oposi t i onmysel ff orsuccess. Ij oi nedmedi aor gani zat i onsandot herl eader shi por gani zat i onsoncampus.I wasabl et obui l dr el at i onshi pwi t hsomepeopl et hatevenwhenIwant edt ocar r y outsomet hi ngsIwi l lj ustgi vet hem acal li nst eadofgoi ngt hr oughst r ess.Iwas el ect edast heGener alSecr et ar yoft heNi ger i aUni onofCampusJour nal i st ( NUCJ)Adekunl eAj asi nUni ver si t yChapt erandt hatal sogavemenumberof oppor t uni t i est obui l dmysel f .Ihadt heoppor t uni t yt omeetwi t ht heNi ger i a Associ at i onofWomenJour nal i st( NAWOJ)OndoSt at eChapt er .It r avel eddown t oOgunSt at ef r om OndoSt at ef ort he2019Nat i onalConvent i onofNi ger i a Uni onofCampusJour nal i st( NUCJ)Nat i onalBodyandIgotanawar dast he wi nneroft he2019Nat i onalQui zCompet i t i onbyNUCJNat i onal Body. Iengaged i nt r ai ni ngs,at t ended di f f er entconf er encesand vol unt eer ed wi t h sever alnat i onalandi nt er nat i onalor gani zat i onswhi chi ncl udesUni t edNat i ons WomenandPeaceOper at i onsTr ai ni ngI nst i t ut eonGenderAdvocacy,I nnerLi f e Ski l lI nst i t ut e USA,The Gol dmi ne Conf er ence,Udemy USA,Young Af r i can Leader sI ni t i at i ve,Li f eCoachTr ai ni ngI nst i t ut eUSA,Af r i canUni onSt udent s Associ at i on, MyNi ger i aNet wor k,Tel l !Academy,Fi nanceAcademy,GetUp Yout hAf r i ca, I mpactLeader sCl ub, PCDAcademy, Ski l lUpAcademy, Sui ci deand 20

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Depr essi onAwar enessFoundat i on,Cr yst alCl earPr of essi onalSer vi ces,I deal Gi r l sFor um, et c. Manyoft hi st r ai ni ngswer epai df orandot her swer ef r eebecauseIunder st ood t hewhybehi ndwhatIwasdoi ngandsoIwasr eadyt oi dent i f yandl ever ageon oppor t uni t i est osetupf orsuccess.

Choosi ngyourcar eerr equi r esyout o:  ASSESSYOURSELF Youmustunder st andt hateachi ndi vi dualhasdi f f er entgoal s,t al ent s,i nt er est s, andval ues.I ti snotever yt hi ngt hatot her sengagei nt hatyoushoul df ol l ow. Ther ear ecer t ai ncar eer seachi ndi vi dualcanpur sueandexceli ni tandbe sat i sf i ed,wher eassomear ebeyondourabi l i t i es.Youcannotsayyouwantt o st udyMedi ci nebecauseyourf r i endchoosest o,wher easyouar egoodatAr t Cour ses,youwi l lal waysf i ndi tdi f f i cul tt oexceli ni t .Somanyst udent son campust odayf acet hi spr obl em i nt hei rcar eer .Youcannotgi vewhatyoudon' t have.YoumustDet er mi newhatyouwoul denj oyandexcelatbyt aki ngcar eer assessment sandmosti mpor t ant l y, eval uat eyourSel f .  MAKEALI STOFPOTENTI ALOCCUPATI ONS Anot herar eawher est udent sof t enf or gett oassessi st hear eaofpot ent i al occupat i ons.Manyst udent sonl yf ocust hei rmi ndonj ustoneoccupat i on.What i ft hatdoesn' twor kout , youar el ef tst r andedbecauseyoudi dnotmakepl ansf or anal t er nat i ve.Af t erconduct i ngsomesel f assessment ,youshoul dbeabl et o i dent i f yt het ypesofcar eer syoushoul dpur sue.I ti snotpossi bl et opur sueal l , soi ti si mpor t antyouhaveal i stofyourcar eerchoi ces.Thel i stshoul dbeused t odet er mi newher et obegi nyourcar eersear ch.Whenmaki ngyourchoi ces, sel ectj obst hati nt er estyouandar emat chi ngyourski l l set .  STUDYYOUROPTI ONS Af t erpr epar i ng yourl i st ,l ear n abouteach pot ent i alcar eer .Lear n about educat i onalort r ai ni ngr equi r ement s,j obdut i es,empl oymentout l ook,annual 21

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ear ni ngs,andpr omot i onoppor t uni t i es.Youcangetnecessar yi nf or mat i onf r om t heI nt er net .Expl or eoppor t uni t i esandt r yt omeetwi t hapr of essi onali neach f i el dt oobt ai ni ndept hdet ai l sabouteachpr of essi on.Youcanhaveengagement wi t hr el at i ves,col l eagues,andschoolmat escur r ent l ywor ki ngi nf i el dst hat i nt er estyou.St udyaboutannualsal ar y, empl oymentpr ospect s, andempl oyment r equi r ement sandt akeadvant ageofnet wor ki ngoppor t uni t i es.  SETGOALS Youmusthavet hatpassi ont oest abl i shgoal sandbepr ogr essi vei nsi t uat i ons. Af t ergat her i ngnecessar yknowl edgeaboutyourchoi ceofcar eer ,est abl i sh at t ai nabl egoal s.Youshoul dbei nf or medenought oest abl i shshor tandl ong t er m goal s.Typi cal l y,shor t t er m goal scanbemetbet ween13year sandl ongt er m bet ween35year s.Sot hatwhenyougr aduat eorevenasanunder gr aduat e youmusthaveachi evedsomegoal syouset .Youmustunder st andt hatt he pr ocesswi l lnotbeeasyr eachi ngeachgoal ,sobepr epar edt owor khar d,make adj ust ment s when necessar y,and r emai n commi t t ed.Goal s ar et ypi cal l y achi evabl e when t hey' r e def i ned,f l exi bl e,r eal i st i c,and at t ai nabl e wi t hi na speci f i edt i meper i od.I twasbecauseoft hegoal sIsetf ormysel ft hatI ' m abl et o i dent i f ywhatIshoul ddoorhaveandwhatIshoul dn' tdoorhave.  TAKEACTI ON Now t hatyouhaveest abl i shedcar eergoal s,begi ndevel opi ngacar eeract i on pl anconsi st i ngofspeci f i cst epst or eacht hegoal syouhavesetf oryour sel f . Thi sr equi r esyout oaddr esspossi bl eobst acl esbyt aki ngst epst oaddr esst hem, andt her equi r edr esour cest hatcanbeut i l i zedwhent heneedar i ses.Thi swi l l hel pyoudef i nehowyouwi l lr ecei ver equi r ededucat i onalormor alt r ai ni ngand pr of essi onalexper i enceanddevel opmentf oryourcar eer .Youcanengagei n car eert r ai ni ng, at t endsemi nar sandwor kshops, l ear nnewski l l s, r eadbooksand haveament or .

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RI GHTYETWRONG Manyyoungpeopl eengagei nsomef or m ofwr ongat t i t udeswhi cht heyf eeli s r i ght ,andt hi shaveaf f ect edt hem asanunder gr aduat e,andevenasagr aduat e t heyst ar tsuf f er i ngt heconsequencesandatt heendt heyst ar tcompl ai ni ng, maki ngwr ongi ndi cat i ons.Li f eoncampushasi t sgoodsi deandbadsi de. However ,t hef r eedom andf unassoci at edwi t hcampusl i f emakespeopl evi ew campusast hepl acet obe.Thought hi ngsmayseem t obef un,t her ear et hi ngs whi chshoul dbeatbestavoi dedbecauset heydonotonl yaf f ectusi nschool , butt heyal soaf f ectourcar eeraf t erschool .  EXAMI NATI ONMALPRACTI CES-Exami nat i onmal pr act i ceshasbecomea cul t ur alnor m i neducat i onalenvi r onmentespeci al l yhi gheri nst i t ut i ons, under gr aduat est udent snol ongerseet heneedt obeser i ousandf ocus i nst ead t hey set t l ef orexami nat i on mal pr act i ces.Notever y st udent nowadays,whoownadegr ee,possessest henecessar yandr equi r edski l l asar esul tofexami nat i onmal pr act i ces.Manyempl oyer sf i ndi tdi f f i cul tt o empl oyi ndi vi dual sbecauseofi ngenui t yofdegr eecer t i f i cat e.St udi eshave shownt hatst udent swhoseecl assesasawayt omast erski l l s, cheatl ess of t ent hant hosewhoonl yf ocusonacademi cachi evement ,j ustt opass t heexams.St udent swhoengagei nexami nat i onmal pr act i cesar el i kel yt o bedi shonesti not heraspect soft hei rl i f e.Theyar eadver sel yaf f ect edby somef or m ofdependencypr obl ems.Maj or i t yoft hem evenendupst eal i ng orcheat i ngatwor k,engagei nsomef or m ofact i vi t i est hatar eagai nstt he r ul esoft heor gani zat i onandi nt heendt heyl oset hei rj obs.  DRUGS AND ALCOHOLABUSE-Manyst udent scomet ocampuswi t h f ocusbutsi ncecampusbr i ngsf r eedom t oal otofpeopl e,t heyt endt o engagei nbehavi or st hatt heywer eshi el dedf r om byt hei rpar ent s.Such behavi or si ncl udedr ugandal coholabuse.Peopl et endt oseet hi sast he 23

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oppor t uni t yt ot r y new dr ugs and even st ar tdr i nki ng al cohol .Peopl e devel opsomeheal t hpr obl emsoncampus,someengagei nl awl essact t hatget st hem ar r est edandl ockedi nj ai l , someendupl osi ngoppor t uni t i es t hatwoul dhavet r ansf or medt hei rl i f e, someevenendupi nt hegr ave.

 PROCRASTI NATI ON-Thi si sanat t i t udet hathasaf f ect edal otofpeopl e. Ever ybodyhaspr ocr ast i nat ed atonet i meoranot herbutt hel evelof pr ocr ast i nat i oni shi ghestamonguni ver si t yst udent s.I nmyf i r styeari nt he uni ver si t y,Ihadoppor t uni t yt oappl yf oraschol ar shi ppr ogr am butasa r esul tofpr ocr ast i nat i onImi ssedi t .Al otofst udent soncampusar ef ace wi t hdi f f er entf or msofpr ocr ast i nat i on, r angi ngf r om t hepaymentofschool f ees,st udyi ngf orexams,doi ngassi gnment set c.Manypeopl ehavel ost hugeoppor t uni t i esasar esul tofpr ocr ast i nat i onandt hi sal soaf f ect sour car eerevenaf t erschool .Oncet i mei swast ed, i tcanneverber ecover ed.  MI SSI NG/ GOI NG LATE TO CLASSES -Cl asses on campus ar e qui t e di f f er ent ;t het i met abl esacr ossdepar t ment sandl evel sar ecompl et el y di f f er ent ,even f ort hesamef acul t y.Onecannotknow i fast udenti s mi ssi ngacl assornot , somepeopl eusual l ybegf r i endst ot akeat t endance f ort hem andsi gnont hei rbehal f .Somecomel at et ocl ass,somear enot evenset t l edwhi l el ect ur ei non.Thi sbehavi ourhavehadsomedevast at i ng consequencesonsomanyst udent s,becausesome l ect ur esar ebest under st oodwhenexpl ai nedbyt hel ect ur er .Somet i psmaybegi venon howt ohandl eapar t i cul arquest i oni nexam andyoumayendupmi ssi ngi t . Some st udent s usual l y mi ss t est ,i mpor t anti nf or mat i on,and ot her oppor t uni t i es t o excelas a st udent .These expl ai n why some peopl e engagei nexami nat i onmal pr act i ces.

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 NOTTAKI NGCAREOFYOURSPI RI TUALLI FE-Manyst udent soncampus donotseet heneedt oCar ef ort hei rspi r i t uall i f e.Theyj ustdowhat pl easest hem.I ti si mpor t antt oknowt hatnoonecansucceedwi t houtt he gr aceofGod.How mucht i medoyoudedi cat et ot het hi ngsoft hespi r i t ? Howwel ldoyoupr ay, at t endf el l owshi p, l i st ent oser mon.Butsomepr ef er goi ngt opar t i esandcl ubst hatwon' tevenaddval uet ot hei rl i f ej ust because ofsome f un and pl easur et hatwon' tl ast .Many st udent s r ememberGodonl yaf t erl eavi ngschool andar epl aguewi t hchal l enges.

OTHERWRONGATTI TUDETHATSHOULDBEAVOI DEDI NCLUDES: 1.Dependi ngonot her st odot hi ngsf oryou. 2.Negat i vepeerpr essur e 3.Cohabi t at i on( of t encal l edcoupl esl i f eoncampus) . 4.Havi ngmanypar t ner s( of t encal l eddoubl edat i ngoncampus) .St udent sof t en engagei nsexualact i vi t i eswi t hdi f f er entpar t ner sal li nt henameofdat i ngandat t heenddevel oppr obl emsf ort hem sel vesandCar eer .Someendupbecomi ng sexaddi ct . 5.Movi ng/ Associ at i ngwi t ht hewr ongsetoff r i ends. 6.Notdoi ngassi gnment s 7.Lazyt ost udyorr eadt extbooks 8.Googl eever yt hi ng 9.Payi ngl essat t ent i ont ol ect ur er sdur i ngl ect ur es 10.Spendi ngt oomucht i meonsoci all i f e 11.At t endi ngni ghtpar t i es 12.Comi nghomel at eatni ght 13.Sl eepi ngt oomuch 14.Spendi ngmucht i mewat chi ngmovi es/ por nogr aphy 15.Notcont r i but i ngt ogr oupwor k/ pr oj ect / assi gnment s.

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SOMEWRONGNOTI ONSANDMI NDSET ABOUTCAMPUS Manypeopl ehaveawr ongnot i onandmi ndsetaboutcampus.Thi si soneoft he r easonsst udent sgot ot heuni ver si t yandgr aduat ewi t houtacl earpi ct ur eof how t hei rl i f eshoul dbe.I nt heendt heyst ar tbl ami ngf ami l ymember sand gover nmentf ort hei rpr edi cament .Someoft hesewr ongnot i onsandMi ndsetar e:  Campusi sapl aceoff r eedom  Campusi sapl acef ormaki ngnewf r i ends  Campusi sapl acef orf unandpl easur e  Campusi sapl acef orf ashi on  Campusi sapl acef orsexualr el at i onshi p  Campusi sapl acet hatdef i nesgr owt h  Campusi sapl acef ordevel opi ngandt r yi ngoutnewhabi t s  Campusi sanewhome

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THEACTOFSETTI NGGOALS Thet r oubl ewi t hnothavi ngagoali st hatyoucanspendyourl i f er unni ngupand downt hef i el dandneverscor e.—Bi l lCopel and Youneedapl ant obui l dahouse.Tobui l dal i f e,i ti sevenmor ei mpor t antt o haveapl anorgoal .—Zi gZi gl ar Whenwet al kaboutgoalset t i ng, wef i r stneedt ounder st andt heconceptofGoal ; whati st hemeani ngofGoal .Goali ssai dt obear esul tonei sat t empt i ngt o achi eve.I tr ef er st o one' s ambi t i on,obj ectofdesi r e,obj ect i ve,pur pose or aspi r at i on. Goalset t i ngi sani mpor t antaspectofourl i f e;i tgi vesust hevi si onandcl ar i t yof whatwewantandhow wewantt hem.Yourgoali sr esponsi bl ef orput t i ngyou backont r ack.I ti sament aldi r ect i onofwher eyouar egoi ng.Mostpeopl edonot setgoal sbecauset heyf eelt heyal r eadyknowwhatt heywantt odo. Remember , goalset t i ngi sanongoi ngact i vi t y, notj ustameanst oanend.Bui l d i nr emi nder st okeepyour sel font r ack,andmaker egul art i mesl ot savai l abl et o r evi ew yourgoal s.Yourenddest i nat i onmayr emai nqui t esi mi l arovert hel ong t er m,butt he act i on pl an you setf oryour sel fal ong t he way can change si gni f i cant l y.Makesur et her el evance, val ue, andnecessi t yr emai nhi gh. EXAMPLEOFPERSONALGOALS Ihavedeci dedt ot hi nkaboutwhatIwantt odowi t hmyl i f eandmyl i f egoal sar e asf ol l ows: Car eer– " To be a CEO ora managi ng di r ect orofa coachi ng/ consul t i ng companywhi chengagei nPer sonalDevel opmentandBusi nessConsul t ancy Ser vi ces. " 27

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Ar t i st i c–" Tokeepwor ki ngonmyi l l ust r at i onski l l s.Ul t i mat el yIwantt ohavemy owngr aphi csst udi o" Physi cal–" Toal waysexer ci se. " Now t hatIhavel i st edoutmyl i f et i megoal s,l et ' snow br eaki tdowneachone i nt osmal l er , mor emanageabl egoal s. Goal–“ TobeaCEOoramanagi ngdi r ect orofacoachi ng/ consul t i ngcompany” Fi veyeargoal :" Becomeapar t nerwi t haCoachi ngorConsul t ancyf i r m" Oneyeargoal :" Vol unt eerf orpr oj ect st hati nvol ves coachi ng,ment or i ng, t r ai ni ngset c. ” Si xmont hgoal :" Gof ort r ai ni ngsandcoachi ngf oradequat eknowl edgeont he f i el dofcoachi ngandment or i ng. " Onemont hgoal :" r egi st erf orf r eeonl i net r ai ni ngt odet er mi newhatski l l sar e neededt odot hej ob. " Oneweekgoal :MakeTodol i standact i onpl ans." Sear chf orf r eecl assesonl i ne t ogai nknowl edge. " Asyoucanseef r om t hi sexampl e,br eaki ngbi ggoal sdowni nt osmal l er ,mor e manageabl egoal smakesi tf areasi ert oseehowt hegoal wi l l getaccompl i shed. I fyoudon' tal r eadysetgoal s,doso,st ar tnow.Asyoumaket hi st echni quepar t ofyourl i f e,you' l lf i ndyourcar eeraccel er at i ng,andyou' l lwonderhow youdi d wi t houti t . 28

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How do you measur epr oduct i vi t y?Whatdoessuccessmean t o you?I ti s t hr ought hi syouwi l lknowi fyou' r epr ogr essi veornot , i fyou' r esuccessf ulornot . Yourdef i ni t i onofsuccessi snotsameasmi ne,sooursyst em ofmeasur i ng successi sdi f f er ent .Tomesuccessmi ghtmeanwhenyouar eabl et oi mpact peopl e,t oyousuccessmi ghtmeanwhenyoumakepr of i t .Sogoal shel pyou achi eve yourhi ghestpot ent i al .Wi t houtgoal s,you def aul tt oar out i ne of act i vi t i est hatkeepsyouf eelsaf eandcomf yeachday. Manypeopl et odayar esl eepwal ki ngt hr oughl i f e.Event hought heywor khar d, t heydon’ tf eell i ket heyar eget t i ngwhatt heywant .That ’ sbecauset heydon’ t haveadi r ect i onofwher et heywantt ogo,whatt heywantt oachi eve.St udent s gr aduat eandt hey’ r enotsur ewhatt odowi t ht hei rl i f e;adul t swor kf oryear sand ar eshockedwhent heyr eacht hei r30s/ 40sandt heydon’ tknowwhatt odonext . Goalset t i ngpr ogr amst hemi ndt of ol l ow acl earpat ht oone' sambi t i onor pur pose. Fl or enceMusengi ,i nherbookWOMANATTHETOP,sai d,Goalset t i ngmakes your eal i zet hatever yt hi ngi nl i f er equi r esat t ent i ont osucceedandf ai l sby def aul t . Gar yRyanBl ai rsai d" Goali scr eat edt hr eet i mes,f i r stasament alpi ct ur eof

somet hi ngyouwantt obe,haveordo.Second,whenwr i t t endownt oaddcl ar i t y anddi mensi on.Andt hi r d, whenyout akeact i ont owar dsi t sachi evement s. " Fr om t hi s, wear emadet ounder st andt hatGoal set t i ngr equi r est hr eest eps: Ment alpi ct ur e Wr i t t endown Takeact i on

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Let ' st akeal ookatt hesest epsoneaf t ert heot her .

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I nset t i nggoal ,youmustvi sual i zei t ,seeapi ct ur eofsomet hi ngyouwantt obe, doorhavei nyourhead.Keepi nmi ndavi vi dpi ct ur eofwhatyoudr eam of becomi ngordoi ng.I thel psyout ocl ear l ydeci dewhatyouwant .I tser vesasa r emi ndert o you,const ant l yr emi ndi ng you ofwhatyou haveenvi si oned t o becomeordo.Forexampl e,i fyouhavet hevi si onofbecomi ngt heCEO ofa company,HumanResour cePer son,aMul t i mi l l i onai r eEnt r epr eneur ,aRel i gi ous Leaderet c.Youshoul dpi ct ur eyour sel fasonewhohasal r eadybecomeoneof t hose.Youmustconst ant l ybeaski ngyoursel f quest i ons. I nmyr oom Ihaveapor t r ai tofdi f f er entgl obali nf l uent i alpubl i cspeaker sand coachesver ycl oset omymi r r ort hatever ywhenIwakeup,Igost r ai ghtt ot he mi r r or ,seet hef ut ur ei nsi deofme.Ial waysl ookatt hepor t r ai tandr emi nd mysel ft hatCol l i ns you have a pur pose and dest i ny t of ul f i l l .So t hi s unconsci ousl yshapedmyf ocusandact i onst akenonmyj our neyt osuccess. Vi sual i zi ngyourgoali sapr ocesswher ebyyoument al l yseeyour sel fbei ng, doi ngandhavi ngwhatyoudesi r e.Vi sual i zat i onhasbot hposi t i veandnegat i ve, i ti swhi cheveroneyoupi ct ur ei nyourmi ndt hatexpr essi t sel f .Somepeopl e envi si ont hemsel vespoor ,sad,mi ser abl e,unsuccessf ul ,compl ai ni nget c.And t heybecomecomf or t abl ei ni tovert i mebecauset hati swhatt heyvi sual i ze. Ihadaconver sat i onwi t hsomeoneImeti nPol i t i calSci enceDepar t menti nmy schoolandhewascompl ai ni ngabouthi sexper i encewi t hsomel ect ur er s,and hesai dhehasr el axedhi smi ndanddon' tbot hert or eadt hecour sesoft hose l ect ur er sbecauseheknowshecannotdowel li nt hosecour ses.ThenIasked hi mi ft her ear epeopl ei nhi sdepar t mentdoi ngwel li nt hosecour sesandhesai d yes.Sowhydoyout hi nkyoucannotdowel l , Iaskedhi m.Hesai dhebel i evest he cour sesar ehar dandt hel ect ur er sar et oughert hanot her s, sowheneverhet r i es t or eadt hosecour ses, hewi l lf eelt her e' snoneedbecausehecannotdowel l . 30

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Now t her easont hatboyi sf i ndi ngt hosecour sesdi f f i cul ti sbecausehehad vi sual i zedt hecour sesandt hel ect ur er si nanegat i veway.Sohi smi ndkeeps r emi ndi nghi m hecan' tdowel lbecauset hati st heki ndofment alpi ct ur ehehas oft hosecour ses.Hest oppedr eadi ng,andasast udent ,youcannotdowel li na cour sewi t houthavi ngadequat eknowl edgeaboutt hecour se.Thi si ssomet hi ng t hatsomanyunder gr aduat est udent sf aceoncampus.Youcanonl ydowel li n anyt hi ngyouar edoi ngwhenyouhavear i ghtandposi t i veat t i t udet owar dst hat t hi ng.

Vi sual i zat i oni saper si st entandconsi st entpr ocesst hatyoumustkeepatf ocus unt i lyourment ali magebecomesr eal i t y.Vi sual i zat i onpr oducessel f conf i dence andf eel i ngt hatmakesyoupusht owar dsyourgoal . Fl or enceMusengi ,i nherbookWOMAN ATTHETOP,gaveapi ct ur eofsome f or msofvi sual i zat i on.  Cr eat i veVi sual i zat i on Cr eat i veVi sual i zat i onmeansyousetyourmi ndt ocr eat esomet hi ngt hatdoes notal r eadyexi t .Fori nst anceyouvi sual i zeanoppor t uni t yt hathasnotyetcome. Youhaveament alpi ct ur eofyour sel fassomeoneorhavi ngsomet hi ngal r eady, evenwheni thasnotcome.  Tr ansf or mat i veVi sual i zat i on Tr ansf or mat i veVi sual i zat i onseekst oi mpr oveonsomet hi ngt hatal r eadyexi st s. Fori nst anceyouar ei naposi t i on,t henyoubegi nt oseeyour sel fi nahi gher posi t i on,t hi swi l ll eadyout osomemet hodi candper si st entpr ocesst hatkeep youonf ocus.  Seet heEnd&Onl yt heEndVi sual i zat i on Seet heend&onl yt heendVi sual i zat i onmeansi nvi sual i zi ngyourgoal ,you mustseeonet hi ngandonet hi ngonl y–Thef i nalpr oduct , t heendr esul tandt he desi r edout come.Vi sual i zi ngt heendandonl yt heend, don' tal waysf ocusont he " HOW"pr ocess. 31

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Goal sar ewr i t t endownf ort hem t obeef f ect i veandmat er i al i zed.I ti si mpor t ant t o wr i t e your goal s down f or cl ar i t y and di mensi ons.Br i an Tr acy sai d

" Commi t t i ngyourgoal st opaperi ncr easest hel i kel i hoodofyourachi evi ngt hem byonet housandpercent " .Mar kVi ct orHansenal sogaveani nt er est i ngvi ew whygoal sar ewr i t t endown.Hesai d" Byr ecor di ngyourdr eamsandgoal son paper ,youseti nmot i ont hepr ocessofbecomi ngt heper sonyoumostwantt o be. " Whenyouwr i t eyourgoal sdown,i thel psyoucl ar i f yanddef i net hedi mensi ons ofyourachi evi ngyourgoal s. Takeal ookatt hebr eakdownoft heexampl eofmyper sonalgoalIgave, youwi l l di scovert hatI ' m abl et omanagemygoal s, knowt heoneI ' veat t ai nedandwhi ch onei snext ,what ' st henextl i neofact i on,whatdoIr equi r eatt hi sl evelt oat t ai n t henextone,whi ch oneshoul d wai tand whi ch shoul d go f i r st .Goal sar e di mensi onal . 1.Physi calDi mensi on Thi sent ai l st hequal i f i abl edi mensi onofyourgoal s.Thef ul f i l l i ngel ement sof yourgoal .Forexampl e,i fyouneedacar ,whatki ndofcar ,i fyouneedahouse, whatki ndofhouse, whatki ndofl andl or d, st udyi ngacour se, whatki ndoff r i ends doyouwantt ohavet hatwi l laddval uet oyourl i f eandcar eer . 2.Spi r i t ualDi mensi on Thespi r i t ualdi mensi onofyourgoalent ai l sever yt hi ngt hatmakesyou f ul f i l l ed,sat i sf i ed,f ocusedandener gi zed.Thi sdi mensi onensur est hat yourgoali sbenef i ci alt o manki nd asawhol e.You mustcapt ur et he spi r i t ualel ementt omakei tcompl et e.How i taf f ect sot her s,andyour mor al s.Manypeopl ewi l lsayt heydon' tgeti nvol vedi nspi r i t ualt hi ngs; r el i gi oni snotsomet hi ngt heyf ancy.I ti sver yi mpor t antt oconsi dert he 32

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spi r i t ualaspect sofyourgoal ,f oryout osucceedyouneedt hehel p,gr ace andf avourofGod. 3.Soci et alDi mensi on Asahuman,youl i vei nasoci et yandwhat everyoudoaf f ect st hesoci et y. Li kewi se, t hesoci et yhasani mpactont hegoalyouset , becauseagoali snever seti navacuum.Youl i vei nasoci et yandyouact ual i zeyourgoal sandmakei t f unct i onali nasoci et y.Soyoumustconsi dert hesoci et al di mensi on. 4.Per sonalDi mensi on Thebot t om l i neofyourgoali st obeHEALTHYANDHAPPY.Thi sdepi ct show youneedt of eelwhenyourgoali sachi eved.Somepeopl esetgoal sandendup bei nghur tbyi t .Fori nst ance,somest udent svi sual i zewhatt heycannotaf f or d, t heyenvi si ont heki ndofl i f est yl eoncampust hati snotconveni entf ort hem, t heygooutoft hei rwayt omakesur et heyhavet hatki ndofl i f est yl e–expensi ve wear s, accessor i es, at t endpar t i eset c.Andenduphur t i ngt hemsel vesi nt heend. Yourgoalmustent ai lhappi ness, f ul f i l l mentandenj oymenti npr of i t abi l i t y.Make yourgoal syourdai l ypr i or i t y. Li keIal waysdo, youshoul dcor r espondi ngi magesofyourgoal sandst i ckt hem t oyourwal landal wayst hi nkaboutt hem posi t i vel y.

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Li keear l i ersai d,Goalset t i nggi vesvi si onandcl ar i t yast owhatyouwant .I ti s t her ef or ei mpor t antf oryout opur suei t .St epoutbol dl y.St epoutofyourcomf or t zone, t aket her i sk.Youmustbeper si st entandal waysdeal wi t hf ai l edact i ons. Backt heni nsecondar yschool ,Isetagoalf ormysel ft hatIwant edt obet he over al lbestst udenti nAr tcl ass.Toachi evei tIdi dn' tsi tanddonot hi ngabouti t . Iwas al ways r eadi ng,doi ng myassi gnment s,aski ng quest i ons,engage i n f ur t herr esear chondi f f er entt opi cs.Ir eadf ort hr eeni ght swi t houtsl eep.Ihad di f f er entposi t i onsi nschool ;Iwast hecl assr ep.andt heassi st antseni orpr ef ect 33

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oft heschool .ButIdi dn' tal l owanyoft hoseaf f ectmyf ocusandcommi t mentt o mygoal . Ihadf r i endswhowi l lal waysi nvi t emef orbi r t hdaypar t y,someaski ngmet o comeovert ot hei rhousesowecoul dhangout ,butIhadaf ocusandanyt hi ng t hatwasnotbenef i ci alorcont r i but i ngt ot hesuccessofmygoalIdon' tget i nvol ved. Iwasver yhappyandf ul f i l l edwheni nmyf i nalyeari nsecondar yschoolI r ecei vedanawar dast heOVERALLBESTARTSTUDENT. Li kewi se, t oat t ai nt hegoal sIsetf ormysel fasayoungi ndi vi dualwhowant st o i mpactpeopl e,It ookst r at egi cst eps,cr eat edact i onpl an,r eadbooks,at t ended t r ai ni ngs,conf er ences,wor kshopssoast obeabl et oat t ai nt hosegoal s.Any i nst i nctt hatcl ar i f i esyourgoal sshoul dbeyourat t i t ude. I ti si mpor t antt ohavegoal si nyourl i f e.Coaches,mot i vat or s,andaut hor st el l yout hatyouhavet osetgoal s.Ther ei sal otoft al ki ngaboutgoal s. Goalset t i ngi smuchmor et hansi mpl ysayi ngyouwantsomet hi ngt ohappen. Unl essyoucl ear l ydef i neexact l ywhatyouwantandunder st andwhyyouwanti t t hef i r stpl ace, youroddsofsuccessar econsi der abl yr educed.

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WHATEMPLOYERSWANT Whatdoesanempl oyerwant ? Empl oyer sar enotr eadyt ost ar twast i ngmoney, t i meandr esour cest ot r ai nyou onsomet hi ngyoushoul dal r eadyhave.Youdon' thavet owai tt i l lyousear chi ng bef or eyoucandevel opyour sel ft obet t erposi t i onyour sel fi nt hei ndust r y. Whatski l l sar emosti mpor t antt oempl oyer s?Whi chski l l smot i vat et hem t o chooset hecandi dat est heyhi r e?

SOFTSKI LLSVSHARDSKI LLS Ther e ar e some ski l l s and  qual i t i es  empl oyer s seek i n al lt hei rempl oyees, r egar dl essoft heposi t i on.Thesear ecal l ed  sof tski l l s,andt heyi ncl udet he i nt er per sonalski l l sandat t r i but esyouneedt osucceedi nt hewor kpl ace.They ar e  al so commonl yr ef er r ed t o as  pr of essi onalski l l s,t hose t hatmai nt ai n a  heal t hywor kpl aceenvi r onment . Har d ski l l s ar e ski l l s you can gai nt hr ough educat i on,t r ai ni ng pr ogr ams, cer t i f i cat i ons,andont hej obt r ai ni ng.Thesear et ypi cal l yquant i f i abl eski l l st hat can be easi l y def i ned and eval uat ed.Forexampl e,a har d ski l lf oran I T pr of essi onalmi ghtbecomput erpr ogr ammi ng,whi l eahar dski l lf oracar pent er mi ghtbeknowl edgeofwoodf r ami ng. Sof tski l l si ncl ude at t i t ude,communi cat i on,cr eat i ve t hi nki ng,wor k et hi c, t eamwor k, net wor ki ng, deci si onmaki ng, posi t i vi t y, t i memanagement , mot i vat i on, f l exi bi l i t y,pr obl emsol vi ng,cr i t i calt hi nki ng,andconf l i ctr esol ut i on.Whi l ehar d ski l l sar ej obspeci f i c,mostempl oyer sar el ooki ngf orsi mi l arsof tski l l si nt hei r j obcandi dat es. Af r i endofmi neoncesai dt hatal lt hi st r ai ni ngsandcoachi ngandwhathaveyou ar ej ustwast eoft i me, t hat" whogomakeam gomakeam" .Ismi l ed, t hesoci et y hasgonepassedt hatl evel , youwi l lj ustdi eofpover t y. Haveyoubeent hi nki ngwhyIr egi st er edandat t endedmanyoft hoset r ai ni ngs, coachi ngandwor kshops?Get t i ngski l l edi soneoft hoser easons.It r avel edal l 35

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t hewayt oLagosf r om OndoSt at et ogett r ai nedonemot i onali nt el l i gence, per sonalbr andi ng,at t ended wor kshops t o get t r ai ned on management , l eader shi p, ef f ect i vecommuni cat i on, cr eat i vet hi nki ng, copywr i t i nget c. Sof tski l l sar et heper sonalat t r i but es, per sonal i t yt r ai t s, i nher entsoci alcues, and communi cat i onabi l i t i esneededf orsuccessont hej ob.Sof tski l l schar act er i ze howaper soni nt er act si nhi sorherr el at i onshi pswi t hot her s.Unl i kehar dski l l s t hatar el ear nedi nat r adi t i onalcl assr oom,sof tski l l sar esi mi l art oemot i onsor i nsi ght st hatal l ow peopl et o“ r ead”ot her s.Thesear emuchhar dert ol ear n,at l easti nat r adi t i onalcl assr oom.Butt hei nt er est i ngt hi ngnowi st hatyoucanbe t r ai ned.

WHYEMPLOYERSCAREABOUTSOFTSKI LLS I t ’ seasyt ounder st andwhyempl oyer swantj obcandi dat eswi t hpar t i cul ar har dski l l s.However ,sof tski l l sar ei mpor t antt ot hesuccessofal mostal l empl oyer s.Near l yever yj obr equi r esempl oyeest oengagewi t hot her si n someway.Ther ef or e, bei ngabl et oi nt er actwel lwi t hot her si si mpor t anti n anyj ob. Sof tski l l sar et r ansf er abl eski l l st hatcanbeusedr egar dl essoft hej obatwhi ch t heper soni swor ki ng.Thi smakesj obcandi dat eswi t hsof tski l l sver yadapt abl e empl oyees. Sof tski l l sar eacqui r edovert i measopposedt ot hoseacqui r edi nashor tt i me dur i ngacl ass.Peopl ewi t hsof tski l l sar eof t enseenashavi nguni queandbr oad backgr oundst hatcandi ver si f yacompanyandhel pi tr unmor eef f i ci ent l y. Sof tski l l sar epar t i cul ar l yi mpor t anti ncust omer basedj obs.Theseempl oyees wi l lt ypi cal l ybei ndi r ectcont actwi t hcust omer s.I tt akesanumberofsof tski l l s t obeabl et ol i st ent oacust omerandpr ovi det hatcust omerwi t hhel pf uland pol i t eser vi ce.

TI PSFORHI GHLI GHTI NGYOURSOFTSKI LLS  Makeal i stoft hesof tski l l syouhavet hatar er el evantt ot hej obyouwant .  Lookatal i stofsof tski l l s, andci r cl et heonest hatyouhave.

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 Compar eyourl i stofsof tski l l swi t ht hej obl i st i ng.Whi choft hesesof t ski l l sar ement i onedi nt hel i st i ng?Whi choft hesedoyout hi nkwoul dbe mostusef uli nt hi sj ob?  Makeal i stoft hr eet of i vesof tski l l syouhavet hatar eal soneededf ort he j ob. PS:I fyoudon' thaveany, goandgeti t .

UNDERSTANDI NGTHEAPPLI CATI ONOFSOFTSKI LLS  Communi cat i onski l l s Thi si sabouthow wel lyoucancommuni cat eandi nt er actwi t hot her si nand out si deoft hecompany.  Passi on Howmuchdoyouknowaboutt hei ndust r y?Howmuchdr i vedoyouhave?How commi t t edar eyout ot hecompanyi deal s?Howposi t i vei syourat t i t ude?  Logi c&t echni calski l l s Howgoodar eyourcr i t i calt hi nki ngandanal yt i calski l l s?Howwel ldoyousol ve pr obl ems?Canyout hi nkl at er al l y?Whatt echni cal ski l l sdoyouhave?  Academi cr esul t s Howgoodar eyourmar ks?Wel lagoodacademi cr esul ti snott heonl yt hi ngyou needt osust ai nyourchoi ceofj ob.Empl oyer sar enotl ooki ngf oraf i r stcl assby r esul tandanocl assbyact i on.  Wor kexper i ence Vol unt eer i ngi sonewayt ogai nal otofexper i enceevenasanunder gr aduat e. Oppor t uni t i esar eal lar oundyou, t akeyourt i meandgeti nvol vedi nsomet hi ng.  Val uef i t Doyourper sonalval uesal i gnwi t ht hoseoft hecompany?I syourper sonal i t y onet hatwi l lmi xwel lwi t hot her swhoal r eadywor kt her e?Ar eyourper sonal val ueswel ldef i nedt of i ti n? 37

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 Emot i onali nt el l i gence How i nt el l i gentar eyouemot i onal l y?How awar eofyourownst r engt hsand weaknesses ar e you?How conf i dentormot i vat ed ar e you?How can you managecr i si s?Howwel lcanyoudel i verunderpr essur e?Ar eyout het ypet hat peopl ear eal waysscar edt owor kwi t h?  Teamwor kski l l s Nomani sani sl andofknowl edge.Howwel lcanyouwor kwi t hyourcol l eagues? Howcompet entar eyouwor ki ngwi t hpeopl e?  Act i vi t i es Whatdoyoudobesi desst udy?Whathaveyoudonebesi dest udy?Bot hi nand out si deoft heUni ver si t y( eg.cl ubs,vol unt eer i ng,t r ai ni ngs,hobbi es) .Whatdo youhavet oof f erbesi dequot i ngdef i ni t i onoft er msi nyourar eaofst udi es?  Leader shi pski l l s How wel lcanyout akeupr esponsi bi l i t i es?How wel lcanyoui nf l uenceot her s posi t i vel yt oachi eveasetgoal ?How wel lcanyoumanageyourcol l eaguesi n t heof f i ce?

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BECOMI NGYOUROWNBOSS Manyyoungi ndi vi dual shavet heabi l i t yandcapaci t yt obui l dagoodbusi ness butf ai lt or eal i zei tbecauset heyar ebusydi r ect i ngt hei rat t ent i ont owar ds somet hi ngel se.Manyyoungpeopl ecal lt hemsel vesCEOoft hi sandt hat , t hey' ve madet hei rWhat sAppst at usandI nst agr am paget hei rshopwi t houtt aki nga st epf ur t hert ol ear nhowt oscal eupt hatbusi ness. AsaMar ket i ngconsul t ant ,Ii nt er act edwi t h30st udent st hatar ei nt osel l i ngof wear sandaccessor i es,10st udent st hatar ei nt osel l i ngofdat abundl es,10 st udent st hatar ei nt ol aundr ybusi ness,10st udent st hatar ei nt ocakeand conf ect i oner i esoncampusaboutmar ket i ngandcommuni cat i ons,andonl y10 outoft he60st udent sIi nt er act edwi t hhavet hemi ndsetofscal i ngupt he busi nessandbecomi ngt hei rownBoss.Ot her ssai dt heyj ustwantt ousei tt o getbusyoncampus, t heyar ewai t i ngt i l lwhent heygr aduat et hent heycant hi nk ofwhi chbusi nesst oact ual l ydo,gett hel i t t l et heycanf r om i tandaf t erschool getabet t erj ob, si ncet hei rpr i mar ypubl i cs( cust omer s)ar est udent soncampus.

DEVELOPI NGANENTREPRENEURSHI PMI NDSET Ent r epr eneur shi phasbeendescr i bedast hecapaci t yandwi l l i ngnesst odevel op, or gani zeandmanageabusi nessvent ur eal ongwi t hanyofi t sr i sksi nor dert o makeapr of i t . Whi l e def i ni t i ons ofent r epr eneur shi pt ypi cal l yf ocus on t he l aunchi ng and r unni ngofbusi nesses,duet ot hehi ghr i sksi nvol vedi nl aunchi ngast ar t up,a si gni f i cantpr opor t i onofst ar t upbusi nesseshavet ocl oseduet ol ackoff undi ng, bad busi ness deci si ons,an economi c cr i si s,l ack ofmar ketdemand,ora combi nat i onofal loft hese. An ent r epr eneuri s an ent i t y whi ch has t he abi l i t yt of i nd and actupon oppor t uni t i est ot r ansl at ei nvent i onsort echnol ogi esi nt opr oduct sandser vi ces: Theent r epr eneuri sabl et or ecogni zet hecommer ci alpot ent i aloft hei nvent i on andor gani zet hecapi t al , t al ent , andot herr esour cest hatt ur nani nvent i oni nt oa commer ci al l yvi abl ei nnovat i on.

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I nt hi ssense,t het er m" Ent r epr eneur shi p"al socapt ur esi nnovat i veact i vi t i eson t hepar tofest abl i shedf i r ms,i naddi t i ont osi mi l aract i vi t i esont hepar tofnew busi nesses. Asast udent ,youcangr ow agoodbusi nessvent ur eoutoft hatl i t t l et hi ngyou ar edoi ngoncampusandmakegoodmoney.I nst eadofki l l i ngt hatbusi ness i deapr emat ur el y,youcandevel oppl ansandst r at egi est oscal eupandhave yourbusi nessest abl i shedaf t eryougr aduat e. Youdon' tneedt owai tt i l lyouar eoutofschoolbef or eyoucanst ar tput t i ngal l t hosepl anst oact i ons.Gett r ai ni ngs,r eadbooksonbusi ness,gof orwor kshop andconf er encest ogett henecessar yski l l sandi nf or mat i ont odevel opand i mpr oveonyourbusi ness.

Youmustunder st andt hat :  Fi r st ,t her emustbeoppor t uni t i esorsi t uat i onst or ecombi ner esour cest o gener at epr of i t .  Second,ent r epr eneur shi pr equi r esdi f f er encesbet weenpeopl e,suchas pr ef er ent i alaccess t o cer t ai ni ndi vi dual s ort he abi l i t yt or ecogni ze i nf or mat i onaboutoppor t uni t i es.  Thi r d, t aki ngonr i ski sanecessi t y.  Four t h, t heent r epr eneur i alpr ocessr equi r est heor gani zat i onofpeopl eand r esour ces.

Theexpl oi t at i onofent r epr eneur i aloppor t uni t i esmayi ncl ude:  Devel opi ngabusi nesspl an  Hi r i ngt hehumanr esour ces  Acqui r i ngf i nanci alandmat er i alr esour ces  Pr ovi di ngl eader shi p  Bei ngr esponsi bl ef orbot ht hevent ur e' ssuccessorf ai l ur e  Ri skaver si on

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Ent r epr eneur shi pmayoper at ewi t hi nanENTREPRENEURSHI P ECOSYSTEM whi chof t eni ncl udes:  Gover nmentpr ogr amsandser vi cest hatpr omot eent r epr eneur shi pand suppor tent r epr eneur sandst ar t ups  Nongover nment alor gani zat i onssuchassmal l busi nessassoci at i onsand or gani zat i ons t hatof f eradvi ce and ment or i ng t o ent r epr eneur s( e. g. t hr oughent r epr eneur shi pcent er sorwebsi t es)  Smal l busi ness advocacy or gani zat i ons t hat l obby gover nment sf or i ncr easedsuppor tf orent r epr eneur shi ppr ogr amsandmor esmal lbusi ness f r i endl yl awsandr egul at i ons  Ent r epr eneur shi pr esour cesandf aci l i t i es( e. g.busi nessi ncubat or sand seedaccel er at or s)  Ent r epr eneur shi p educat i on and t r ai ni ng pr ogr ams of f er ed byschool s, col l egesanduni ver si t i es  Fi nanci ng( e. g.bankl oans,vent ur ecapi t alf i nanci ng,angeli nvest i ngand gover nmentandpr i vat ef oundat i ongr ant s) If oundedanNGOcal l edTHEFEMALEGENDERI NI TI ATI VE,apl at f or m wher e young f emal es ar et r ai ned and gi ven t he r i ghtor i ent at i on t o be gr eatand r esponsi bl ewomeni nt hesoci et y.Ihavecar r i edoutanumberoft r ai ni ngsbot h onl i neandof f l i neandal socol l abor at edwi t hot herI ni t i at i vesf ort hepur poseof i mpact i ngyoungpeopl e. Mypassi onf orgenderadvocacyl edmet oj oi nt heUni t edNat i onsHef or She campai gn,agenderbasedcampai gnai medatpr omot i nggenderequal i t y.Asa r esul toft hi spassi on t o pr ot ectand pr omot et her i ght soft hegi r lchi l d,I r egi st er edf oracour se" I mpl ement at i onoft heUNSecur i t yCounci lResol ut i ons onWomen,Peace,andSecur i t yAgendai nAf r i ca"atPeaceOper at i onsTr ai ni ng I nst i t ut ei ncooper at i onwi t ht heUni t edNat i onsWomen.Af t ert het r ai ni ng,I wr ot et heexam andIpassed,Iwasi ssuedacer t i f i cat eofcompl et i on.It ook someot hercour sest oounderYALINet wor ks, at t endedwor kshopsandal lt hese 41

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gavemeasenseoff ul f i l mentbecauseI ' m at t ai ni ngmygoalofr ai si ngt eenage gi r l st obegr eatandr esponsi bl ewomeni nt hesoci et yandmakei mpacti nt hei r spher e.Onet hi ngal lt hesedoesf ormei st hati tgi vesmehappi nessand f ul f i l ment . Il ever agedont heknowl edgef r om t heset r ai ni ngsandwor kshopst obui l dmy busi nessbr and‘ COLLI NSOJI EHANORCONSULTSANDSERVI CES’ wear ei nt o Per sonalDevel opmentCoachi ngandTr ai ni ngs Pr of essi onal andBusi nessTr ai ni ngs Gr aphi cDesi gns Onl i neAdver t s EbookCoverand3DmockupDesi gn Soci alMedi aAd Mar ket i ngResear chandMar ketAnal ysi sandl ot smor e. Asi det hi s,oni ndi vi dualbasi sIwr i t ear t i cl es,st or i esandpoemsandIgetpai d. I ’ mi nt ocoachi ngandt r ai ni ngofi ndi vi dual sononeononebasi sonbusi ness gr owt hasaMar ket i ngSt r at egi standIgetpai d,asapubl i cspeaker ,Ispeakon event sandgetpai d. Thi sdoesnotmeanIshoul dr el ent .I ' m st i l lawor ki npr ogr ess,Ist i l lgof or t r ai ni ngs and wor kshops t o scal e up and i mpr ove because you cannotbe pr oduct i vewhenyouar est agnant . Wi t ht hegr owi nggl obalmar ketandi ncr easi ngt echnol ogyuset hr oughoutal l i ndust r i es, t hecor eofent r epr eneur shi pandt hedeci si onmaki nghasbecomean ongoi ngpr ocessr at hert hani sol at edi nci dent s.

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UNDERSTANDI NG I NTELLI GENCE I nt el l i gentQuot i ent( I Q)  Emot i onal Quot i ent( EQ)  Soci alQuot i ent( SQ)  Adver si t yQuot i ent( AQ) I NTELLI GENTQUOTI ENT( I Q) Thi si swhathel psonet o" knowbook" ,sol vemat hs;memor i zet hi ngsandr ecal l subj ectmat t er s.  EMOTI ONALQUOTI ENT( EQ) Thi si swhatmakessomeonet obeabl et omai nt ai npeacewi t hot her s;keept o t i me;ber esponsi bl e;behonest ;r espectboundar i es;behumbl e,genui neand consi der at e.  SOCI ALQUOTI ENT( SQ) Thi si swhatmakespeopl et obeabl et obui l dnet wor koff r i endsandmai nt ai ni t overal ongper i odoft i me.  ADVERSI TYQUOTI ENT( AQ) Thi si swhatmakespeopl egot hr oughar oughpat chi nl i f eandcomeoutwi t hout l osi ngt hei rCent r e.TheAQdet er mi neswhowi l lgi veupi nf aceoft r oubl es,who wi l labandont hei rf ami l yorwhowi l lconsi dersui ci de.

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THECONCEPTOFPERSONAL DEVELOPMENT I nt hi s21stcent ur y, f oryout of i ti ni nt oanyposi t i onyoumustdevel opyour sel f . Per sonalDevel opmenti samustf orsomeonewhowant st obesuccessf ul .You don' tneedt obecomeagr aduat eal r eadybef or eyoucandevel opyour sel f .Asan under gr aduat e,at t end t r ai ni ngs,r egi st erf orcoachi ng cl asses,par t i ci pat ei n onl i net r ai ni ngs,i twi l lnotonl yhel pyoudevel opandi mpr oveonyour sel f ,i twi l l gi veyouedgeoverot her s. If eelsadt hatwhenyout el lpeopl et oi nvestont hei rper sonaldevel opmentt hey f eelyouar esayi ngr ubbi sh.Peopl ehaveedgeoverot her snotbecauset heyhave t wo heads butbecause ofhow t hey devel op t hemsel ves,i nvesti nt hei r " PERSON"bei ngequi ppedwi t hl i f et i mepr act i calknowl edget hatmakest hem exceli nt hei rper sonall i f e, busi nessesandcar eer .I ' vespentmoneyont r ai ni ngs andwor kshopsf orper sonaldevel opmentandcar eerdevel opment .

WHATHASHELPEDME? 1.Ispendt i meandmoneyont hi ngst hatar ei mpor t antandr el evantt omygoal s. 2.Net wor ki ngandposi t i vecol l abor at i onwi t ht her i ghtpeopl e 3.Haveandmai nt ai ncl oser el at i onshi pwi t hmycoachandment or .Theneedf or coachi ngandment or i ngcannotbeoveremphasi zed.I t ’ sj ustl i keyouwantt o becomeorhavesomet hi ngandyouar egui dedbysomeonewhobecomeor havet hatt hi ng.I tmakest hepr ocessmucheasi erbecauset heyar eal r eady wher eyouwantt obe,t heycanl eadandgui deyout hr oughasmoot ht r ansi t i on f r om yourpr esentst at et ot hatst at eofgr owt handdevel opment ,pr oduct i vi t y andi mpactyouwantt ogett o. 4.Readbooks, at t endt r ai ni gs, wor kshops, conf er ences, et c. 5.Vol unt eer .Vol unt eer i ngi sonewayt hathashel pedmedevel opski l l s,meet andwor kwi t ht her i ghtpeopl et hathavedi r ectori ndi r ecti mpactonmygoal s anddest i ny. 6.Engagement .Idon' tr egi st erf oranyt hi ngonl i neorof f l i nei fi t ' snotsomet hi ng 44

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t hati sr el evantt omyl i f e.AndwhenIdo, Idon' tj ustf i ni shandst ayathome, no, I usual l ypr act i cewhatI ' vel ear nt .Idon' tcl i ckonl i nksj ustbecauseIdon' twantt o f eell ef tout .Iengageever yt hi ngIl ear n. 7.Meetandmakef r i endswi t ht her i ghtpeopl e.Peopl et hatIcanl ear nf r om, peopl et hatcani nspi r eandmot i vat emet ogof ur t herandnevergi veupon anyt hi ngwor t hi t . 8.Takecar eofmyspi r i t uall i f e.Idon' tdoanyt hi ngwi t houti nvol vi ngGod. 9.Imai nt ai nheal t hyr el at i onshi pwi t hpeopl e,Iengagei nmi ndf ull i vi ng.Idon' t putmysel font hi ngsIcan' taf f or dormanageandIsetboundar i esf ormysel f . 10.Renderhel pt opeopl ewi t houtexpect at i ons.Ther ei sawayt heuni ver se wor ks.Youcannotr ecei vei fyoudon' tgi veout . 12.Take car e ofmyphysi caland ment alheal t h.Eatwel l ,sl eep wel l ,get adequat er estandexer ci se. 13.WhenI ' m over whel medwi t hsomet hi ng,Ir el ax,coolof f ,pl anandst r at egi ze, t henappr oachi tagai n.Idon' tgi veyouj ustl i ket hat . 14.Isetanddef i nemypr i or i t i essoIdon' tgooutofpr opor t i on 15.Isetgoal sonever yt hi ngIdoandIt akeact i ononi t .Ii nt ent i onaldi dnotput t hi soneasnumberone. Don' tbet oobusyt oi nvesti nsomet hi ngf ul f i l l i ng.Youcannotknow i tal l .You nevercant el lwher eyouwi l lgett hatonet hi ngt hatwi l lscal eupyourbusi nessor car eer .Makegooduseofoppor t uni t i es.Lear ni ngi snevert oomuch.Peopl e nowadays,especi al l yyout hsdonotat t endt r ai ni ngsbecauset heyf eeli t ' snot i mpor t ant .Li st ent ome, " YOUAREDOI NGYOURSELF" I nt hi s21stcent ur y,f oryout osucceedyouneedt obei nt ent i onalandwi l l i ngt o succeed.Ever yonewi l lsayIwantt obesuccessf ulbutnotact ual l yever yonei s r eady,wi l l i ng and del i ber at e aboutt aki ng pr act i calst eps wi t h adequat e pr epar ednesst or eal l ybecomesuccessf ul .Youal waysheart hem say" Goddey" " Ol uwai si nvol ved. "Ipi t yyou.Recei vesensei nJesusname.Li f ei smor et han f ast i ng and pr ayi ng f ort he bestt o come.You mustt ake pr act i calst eps. Somet hi ngyoudon' tknow cannotbeofbenef i tt oyoubecauseyoul ackt he under st andi ngofhowusef uli ti s. Somanypeopl ear est agnant ;r emai nonaspotf oral ongt i mebecauset heydi d notmakeanyef f or tt ogr ow, atl eastevenbet t ert hanhowt heywer esomeyear s 45

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back.Theonl yt hi ngt hatchangedi nsomepeopl ei st hei r" age"not hi ngel se. Theydot hi ngsr epeat edl yi nawayt hatwhenyouseet hem youst ar tquest i oni ng t hei rst at eofsani t y.Youbel i ke" sor r yar eyounor mal . " Bedel i ber at eaboutyoursuccess.I nvesti nyour sel f .Changeyourmi ndset . Changeyouror i ent at i on.Gof ort r ai ni ngs.Askquest i ons.Don' tbecomf or t abl e wi t ht hatsi t uat i on.Don' tbeconf or medt oyourenvi r onment .Setgoal sand achi evet hem.Anyl i f et hatyoucan' taf f or di snotf oryou.Sodon' tgoandki l l your sel f .Thati snothow t oshow t hatyouar esuccessf ul .St r et chout .Getup andact .

HAVEAGOODPERSONALI TYANDPERSONAL CHARACTER Yourper sonal i t yi ssetbynoonebutyou.I tencompassest heact i onsyout ake andt hedeci si onsyoumake.Ei t heryouar eapat i entper sonornot , ar esponsi bl e per sonornot .Tr yaski ngyour sel fsomesear chi ngquest i ons.  TRUSTWORTHI NESS Whenot her st r ustus,t heygi veusgr eat erl eewaybecauset heyf eelwedon’ t needmoni t or i ngt oassur et hatwe’ l lmeetourobl i gat i ons.Theybel i evei nusand hol dusi nhi gherest eem.Att hesamet i me,wemustconst ant l yl i veupt ot he expect at i onsofot her sandr ef r ai nf r om evensmal ll i esorsel f ser vi ngbehavi or t hatcan qui ckl ydest r oyourr el at i onshi ps.WhywasIabl et o gai n wor ki ng exper i enceonsomeact i vi t i es?Becauset hepeopl et hathavemet heoppor t uni t y t owor khadt r usti nmet hatIcoul ddel i verandIdi dnotl ett hem down. Si mpl yr ef r ai ni ngf r om decept i oni snotenough.Tr ust wor t hi nessi st hemost compl i cat edoft hesi xcor eet hi calval uesandconcer nsavar i et yofqual i t i esl i ke honest y, i nt egr i t y, r el i abi l i t yandl oyal t y.  HONESTY Ther ei snomor ef undament alet hi calval uet hanhonest y.Weassoci at ehonest y 46

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wi t hpeopl eofhonor ,andweadmi r eandr el yont hosewhoar ehonest .But honest yi s a br oader conceptt han many may r eal i ze.I ti nvol ves bot h communi cat i onsandconduct .

Honest yi ncommuni cat i onsi sexpr essi ngt het r ut hasbestweknow i tandnot conveyi ngi ti nawayl i kel yt omi sl eadordecei ve.Honest yi nconducti spl ayi ng byt her ul es,wi t houtst eal i ng,cheat i ng,f r aud,subt er f ugeandot hert r i cker y. Cheat i ngi sapar t i cul ar l yf oulf or m ofdi shonest ybecauseonedonotonl yseeks t odecei vebutt akeadvant ageoft hosewhoar enotcheat i ng.I ti savi ol at i onof bot ht r ustandf ai r ness.  TRUTHFULNESS. Tr ut hf ul nessi spr esent i ngt hef act st ot hebestofourknowl edge.I nt enti st he cr uci aldi st i nct i onbet weent r ut hf ul nessandt r ut hi t sel f .Bei ngwr ongi snott he samet hi ngasl yi ng,al t houghhonestmi st akescanst i l ldamaget r usti nsof aras t heymayshowsl oppyj udgment .  SI NCERI TY. Si ncer i t yi sgenui neness, bei ngwi t houtt r i cker yordupl i ci t y.I tpr ecl udesal lact s, i ncl udi ng hal f t r ut hs,out of cont extst at ement s,and even si l ence,t hatar e i nt endedt ocr eat ebel i ef sorl eavei mpr essi onst hatar eunt r ueormi sl eadi ng.  CANDOR. I nr el at i onshi psi nvol vi ngl egi t i mat eexpect at i onsoft r ust ,honest ymayal so r equi r e candor ,f or t hr i ght ness and f r ankness,i mposi ng t he obl i gat i on t o vol unt eeri nf or mat i ont hatanot herper sonneedst oknow. I NTEGRI TY. A per son ofi nt egr i t yi sundi vi ded and compl et e.Thi smeanst hatt he et hi calper sonact saccor di ngt obel i ef s,notaccor di ngt oexpedi ency.You ar econsi st ent .Ther ei snodi f f er encei nt hewayyoumakedeci si onsf r om 47

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si t uat i ont osi t uat i on.I nt egr i t yi nvol vest aki ngt i mef orsel f r ef l ect i on,so t hatt he event s,cr i ses and seemi ng necessi t i es oft he day do not det er mi net hecour seofyourmor all i f e.Peopl ewi t houti nt egr i t yar ecal l ed “ hypocr i t es”or“ t wof aced. ”  RELI ABI LI TY( PROMI SEKEEPI NG) . Whenwemakepr omi sesorot hercommi t ment st hatcr eat eal egi t i mat ebasi sf or anot herper sont or el yuponus,weunder t akespeci almor aldut i es.Weaccept t her esponsi bi l i t yofmaki ngal lr easonabl eef f or t st of ul f i l lourcommi t ment s. Becausepr omi sekeepi ngi ssuchani mpor t antaspectoft r ust wor t hi ness,i ti s i mpor t antt o:Avoi d badf ai t h excuses.I nt er pr etyourpr omi ses f ai r l y and honest l y.Don’ tt r yt or at i onal i zenoncompl i ance.

DEVELOPYOURPERSONALCHARACTER. Char act eri sabackboneofsust ai nabi l i t yofanyt hi nggoodyouf i ndi nyour hands.Char act er sar ebehavi our s, t hought s, pat t er nset c.t hatdef i nesyouasan i ndi vi dual .Yourt hought sar eof t enmani f est edi nact i ons,becauseyouar ea pr oductofwhatyout hi nk.Yourt hought spl usyourwor dspl usyouract i ons makesyourCHARACTER.Peopl ebui l dupchar act erover t i me. Char act erasi tr el at est ochar act ereducat i onmostof t enr ef er st ohow' good' a per soni s.I not herwor ds,aper sonwhoexhi bi t sper sonalqual i t i esl i ket hosea soci et yconsi der sdesi r abl emi ghtbeconsi der edt ohavegoodchar act er —and

devel opi ngsuchper sonalqual i t i esi sof t enseenasapur poseofeducat i on.At eachst ageofdevel opmentachi l di sl ear ni ngi nsever alar easatt hesamet i me. A chi l di sl ear ni ng t o wal k( physi cal ) ,l ear ni ng col our s( i nt el l ect ual ) ,i s uncomf or t abl e wi t h st r anger s( soci al ) ,expr essi ng f eel i ngs ofi ndependence ( emot i onal ) , andbecomi ngawar eofadul tdi sappr oval f ormi sbehavi or( mor al ) .

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FI VEAREASOFHUMANDEVELOPMENT:  Physi caldevel opment :t hechangesi nsi ze, shape, andphysi calmat ur i t yof t hebody, i ncl udi ngphysi calabi l i t i esandcoor di nat i on. I nt el l ect ualdevel opment :t hel ear ni nganduseofl anguage;t heabi l i t yt o r eason,pr obl emsol ve,andor gani zei deas;i ti sr el at edt ot hephysi cal gr owt hoft hebr ai n.  Soci aldevel opment :t he pr ocess ofgai ni ng t he knowl edge and ski l l s neededt oi nt er actsuccessf ul l ywi t hot her s.  Emot i onaldevel opment :f eel i ngs and emot i onalr esponses t o event s; changesi nunder st andi ngone' sownf eel i ngsandappr opr i at ef or msof expr essi ngt hem.  Mor aldevel opment :t hegr owi ngunder st andi ngofr i ghtandwr ong, andt he changei nbehavi orcausedbyt hatunder st andi ng;somet i mescal l eda consci ence.

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BEMOTI VATED  Go al s;Ther e' snot el l i ngwhatyoucandowhenyougeti nspi r edbyt hem.

Ther e' snot el l i ngwhatwi l lhappenwhenyouactupont hem. _Ji m Rohn  St udyi nor dert ounder st andnott oemphasi zeper f or mance.Mast er yof

t hesubj ectmat t ergener al l ypr oducesbet t ermar kst han per f or mance emphasi s. _SusanVoyer , Dani elVoyer  Be gi nwi t ht heendi nmi nd.

_St ephenCovey  Tr ue happi ness i s notat t ai ned t hr ough sel f gr at i f i cat i on,butt hr ough

f i del i t yt oawor t hypur pose. _Hel enKel l er  Su ccessi snott hepr oductofeducat i onori nt el l i gence.I ti st her esul tof

car ef ul pl anni ng. _Fl or enceMusengi  Fi r stsayt oyour sel fwhatyouwoul dbe;andt hendowhatyouhavet odo.

_Epi ct et us  Th eaccept anceoft heendwi l l st hemeans.

_Nevi l l e  Byr ecor di ng yourdr eamsand goal son paper ,you seti n mot i on t he

pr ocessofbecomi ngt heper sonyoumostwantt obe. _Mar kVi ct orHansen

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 Pe opl ewi t hgoal ssucceedbecauset heyknowwher et hey' r egoi ng.

_Ear lNi ght i ngal e  Wh atyougetbyachi evi ngyourgoal si snotasi mpor t antaswhatyou

becomebyachi evi ngyourgoal s. _Zi gZi gl ar  Su ccessi snotaf unct i onoft hesi zeofyourt i t l ebutt her i chnessofyour

cont r i but i on. _Robi nS.Shar ma  Th eper sonwhosendsoutposi t i vet hought sact i vat est hewor l dar ound

hi m posi t i vel yanddr awsbackt ohi msel fposi t i ver esul t s. _Nor manVi ncentPeal e  Ex ecut i ngyourgoalt hr oughi nspi r edact i on,youmustnevert hi nkoft he

HOW.Thati snotwi t hi nyourpur vi ew. _Fl or enceMusengi  Ou rgr eat estweaknessl i esi ngi vi ngup.Themostcer t ai nwayt osucceed

i sal wayst ot r yj ustonemor et i me. _ThomasA.Edi son  I fone advances conf i dent l yi nt he di r ect i on ofhi s own dr eams and

endeavort ol i vet hel i f ewhi chhehasi magi ned, hewi l lmeetwi t hasuccess unexpect edi ncommonhour s. _Henr yDavi dThor eau

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 Wen eedqui ett i met oexami neourl i vesopenl yandhonest l y.Spendi ng

qui ett i meal onegi vesyourmi ndanoppor t uni t yt or enewi t sel fandcr eat e or der . _SusanL.Tayl or  Fr i endshi pwi t honesel fi sal l i mpor t ant ,becausewi t houti tonecannotbe

f r i endswi t hanyoneel se. _El eanorRoosevel t  Ib el i evet hatasi mpl eandunassumi ngmannerofl i f ei sbestf orever yone,

bestbot hf ort hebodyandt hemi nd. _Al ber tEi nst ei n  Weh avenotpassedt hesubt l el i nebet weenchi l dhoodandadul t hoodunt i l

wehavest oppedsayi ng' i tgotl ost ' andsay' il osti t ' . _SydneyJ.Har r i s  I fIl osemyhonour , Il osemysel f .

_Wi l l i am Shakespear e  Gr eatmi ndsdi scussi deas.Aver agemi ndsdi scussevent s.Smal lmi nds

di scusspeopl e. _El eanorRoosevel t  Wea i m abovet hemar kt ogett hemar k.

_Ral phWal doEmer son  De f eati snott hewor stf ai l ur es.Nott ohavet r i edi st hef ai l ur e.

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SOMEMOTI VATI ONSFROM THEAUTHOR  Thewor l di t sel fbydef aul twon' tgi veyousuccess;i t ' samat t erofhow muchyouar ewi l l i ngandr eadyt odo.  Lookatt hi ngsdi f f er ent l yandseet hebi ggerpi ct ur e.  Successi sapr oductofval ue.Successi swor t hywhenpur posei sf ul f i l l ed  You cannoti mpr ove on your sel fwhen you f i nd yourpr esentst at e comf or t abl e.  Don' tdef i neyour sel fbywhatyouhaveseenorexper i enced,t her ei sa bet t ersel fyouneedt oembr ace.  To be a success,f ocus on pr i or i t yand r emove youreyes f r om si de at t r act i ons.  Youar enotweakwhenyouhavef ear , youar eweakwhenyouacceptf ear  Successi snotapr oductofeducat i on,butar esul tofcar ef ulpl anni ngand execut i on

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SOMEBOOKSTHATHAVEI MPACTEDTHEAUTHOR  THE7HABI TSOFHI GHLYSUCCESSFULPEOPLE _St ephenCovey  ZEROTOI NFLUENCE _Edi r i nEdewor  HOW TOFI NDYOURPERSONALPATHTOSUCCESS _Robi nChaddock  LI FE’ SCOLOUR _Vi ct or i aNwanna  HOW TOGETASMARTMOUTH _Robi nChaddock  WOMANATTHETOP _Fl or enceMusengi  BUI LDI NGGREATRELATI ONSHI PS _Omobabi nr i nAdeol aOsi deko  UNCOVERYOURPOTENTI AL _Myl esMunr oe  PENETRATI NGYOURMARKET _UbongKi ng

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REFERENCE  Fl or enceMusengi( 2015) , Womanatt het op Chal l engi ngwomenever ywher e Toaspi r et ogr eat ness Bydi gni t ypubl i sher sU. K  St ephenR.Covey( 2004) , The7habi t sofhi ghl yef f ect i vepeopl e Power f ul l essonsi nper sonalchange Byf r eepr esspubl i sherNewYor k  myer sbr i ggs. or g  char act er count s. or g  wi ki pedi a. or g t hr i vegl obal . com t hebal ancecar eer s. com  ski l l sof t . com

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ABOUTTHEAUTHOR COLLI NS ODI GI E OJI EHANOR i s a gr aduat e of Mass Communi cat i oni nAdekunl eAj asi nUni ver si t yAkungbaAkoko, Ondo St at e,Ni ger i a.He i s an awar d wi nni ng Mar ket i ng Communi cat i on St r at egi st ,awar d wi nni ng Jour nal i st ,Publ i c Speaker ,Gr aphi c Desi gner ,Poet ,Teen Coach,Gi r lChi l d Advocat eandaVol unt eer .Hei saCer t i f i edPer sonalDevel opmentCoachwho bel i evesi npassi onandpr oduct i vi t y,goalset t i ngandat t ai nment .Hei st he f ounderandf aci l i t at orofTHEFEMALEGENDERI NI TI ATI VE,apl at f or m wher e f emal esar et r ai nedandgi vent her i ghtor i ent at i ont obegr eatandr esponsi bl e womeni nt hesoci et y.Hehascar r i edoutsever alt r ai ni ngsandhavecoached over200youngpeopl eandst ar tupbusi nessowner sbot honl i neandof f l i neas wel laswor kedwi t hot herI ni t i at i vesi nvol unt eer i ngser vi cef ort hepur poseof i mpact i ngyoungpeopl e. Col l i nswasawar ded PERSONALBRANDOFTHEYEARatt het hei coni cbr and awar d 2019 by PERSONAL AND CAREER DEVELOPMENT ACADEMY I n r ecogni t i on ofhi sef f or ti n bui l di ng a sust ai nabl ePERSONAL BRAND asa MARKETI NG AND COMMUNI CATI ON STRATEGI ST.He r epr esent ed Ni ger i an Uni onofCampusJour nal i st ,AAUACHAPTERandwasawar dedwi nneri nt he 2019Nat i onalQui zCompet i t i onatt heNat i onalConvent i onoft heNat i onalUni on ofCampusJour nal i st( NUCJ)i nOgunSt at e,aswel lasTel l !Academywr i t er ' s awar dnomi neef orNextRat edWr i t er2019. Hei st heDi r ect orofMedi aandPubl i ci t yi nPer sonalandCar eerDevel opment Academyandal sot heMar ket i ngHeadi nFi nanceAcademy.Hei samemberof MyNi ger i aNet wor k,Tel l !Academy,GetUpYout hAf r i ca,I mpactLeader sCl ub, Nat i onalUni onofCampusJour nal i st ,YoungAf r i canLeader sI ni t i at i ve,Sui ci de and Depr essi on Awar enessFoundat i on,I mpactLeader sCl ub,Af r i can Uni on St udent sAssoci at i on,et c.Hehasser vedasEdi t ori ndi f f er entmedi aout l et son campus.

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